positiveone Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 Male age 22 - she was Female age 20 I still can't come to terms with the breakup. I still feel like she didn't give it ANY effort to pick up the pieces and rebuild. She came from a broken home and she was the only one that actually was creating a future for herself.. I believe the troublesome challenges she went through as a child and through life with her family made her emotionally inept to actually apply coping skills and solutions to issues that would arise within our relationship. She put herself on lockdown whenever issues would arise in our romantic relationship... I was always the one to try and understand what we could do better and how we could try and fix it. I would also go to her when I was unhappy with a thing or two and try to see what we could do to make it better. She never really had the ability to try and fix anything at all. Sure there was a few thing I could have done better and I now relize that (of course I relize these things at the worst time * after she's gone*)... To sum it up... breaking up was not an option for me even though at times I'd get frustrated and threaten breaking up. I never REALLY wanted that. I just didn't know how else to tap into her emotionally because she closed herself off completely. And so here I am now.. 6 months after she left and I'm still fantasizing about her coming back. What I gather from all of this knowledge that I've accumulated over the months of being without her is that she will NEVER come back because she doesn't know how to.. she doesn't know how to repair and build. She only knows how to run away because that's how she dealt with her family issues as a child. Let me know any advice that you have, this is my shpeal and I'd like to hear your thoughts. Thank you for reading Link to comment
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