JavierVilchez Posted July 3, 2017 Share Posted July 3, 2017 Sorry if this message will be too long, but I want you guys to have all the information. I have been with my girlfriend since 10 months, she is 24 and I am 26. When we started hooking up I told her that I do not want a relationship and each of us is free to do what they wanted. She didnt tell me this directly but I knew from a friend that she was very sad about it. We continued hooking up and around 2 months being with her, I realized I can give a relationship with her a shot. She seemed kind, loyal, loving. After the 2nd month, I saw she was very upset and jealous about me talking or flirting with other girls. The thing is that she was doing even more, like getting very close to my guy friends, so close they can kiss her if they wanted, and so on. We had some conversations about it and we agreed we will be exclusive. After that conversation, I didnt flirt with other girls, dance with other girls or do anything that might upset her. The problem is that she kept doing it for three more months. Even after a lot of fights and arguments, she would always say something like "This is just my friend", "I am not flirthing", "I only do that with close friends". We had a lot of arguments about this for 3 months, until one night, she did exactly the same in a party we both went to. Not only did she approach some guy she never knew, told him that he looked like a guy she used to have sex with, getting close to him, slapping his face in a dirty way, pulling him closer to her, playing with his hair, etc.. On that night I told her that I have had enough. and I am not sure that I want to be with her anymore. After a couple of days her chasing me, I told her she had one last chance and if she did the same, I would leave her. Things got more serious around the 6 months mark, we acknowledge our love for each other and so on. We have a great time. She never got close to any other guy (that I know off) and things are going ok. But over time I discover that she is telling me white lies. She would lie to me if an ex-partner would text her, or if some ex-boyfriend sends her a nasty message. The problem for me is that when I ask her about her weird behavior she would tell me some bull excuse. For example, one night, she was hiding her phone in her book. I asked her what is going on. She said that the phone is slipping and falling on the floor. One other time, she had to wash her hands. She was acting weird and I saw she took her phone with her to the bathroom. When I asked her about it she said her girl friend is sending her a message. I discovered (a few weeks later) she was talking to a guy she hooked up with before. I asked her to show me the messages (some weeks later) and I saw that the messages had nothing dirty/sexual in them. Maybe she deleted the bad messages? She promised many times she would always be truthful with me, but it seems that she keeps repeating the same behaviour and white lies. My girlfriend is telling me a lot of white lies, and I cannot trust her anymore. I love her but I dont know if I should continue with this relationship. I even showed her my phone and all the girls that were trying with me and I rejected them, but nothing is working...!! She was in an abusive relationship one year before she met me. The guy was a jealous control freak. Maybe thats why she is behaving that way? or maybe she made him that way? Any advice? I cannot continue my life like this Link to comment
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