Strong Attachment

[gandalfhan]

Hi guys,

 

I am writing to you all in order to receive an advice for my mate. So my mate's relationship is basically on the edge where his girlfriend doesn't even care about it. The problem is that he got so attached to her that he doesn't want any other girl as he says that she is the one, beautiful, that he won't find anyone like her. He keeps saying that he will be lonely after breaking-up and that he won't find anyone. Of course I am trying to exterminate these ideas because they might cause only sorrow. I don't really know what to do anymore to make him understand that. Any help much appreciated

[SherrySher]

You can't fix this nor should you.

A friend is someone who is there to support whatever choices your friend makes, not to dictate them.

It's up to him to work out whether his gf is good for him or not, not you.

Be there for him to talk, support him, let him vent, but otherwise stay out of it and let him work his own problems out with his gf.

[gandalfhan]

You can't fix this nor should you.

A friend is someone who is there to support whatever choices your friend makes, not to dictate them.

It's up to him to work out whether his gf is good for him or not, not you.

Be there for him to talk, support him, let him vent, but otherwise stay out of it and let him work his own problems out with his gf.

 

I am not even trying to dictate him, all I am trying to do is to show him that there many other girls that are better than his gf. Also, I am supporting him as much as I can but also I am trying to help him to think forward.

[SherrySher]

Deciding to break up with her and move on, is his decision alone.

He will only resent you if you force him.

All you can do is be there for him. He needs to mourn on his own time and get over her on his own time. You can't tell him how and when he should.