Kelly16789 Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Hello! I'm new here although I used to post here years ago under a different name and found it to be a wonderful community. I'm here seeking an understanding of a friend. I've recently moved back to my home country after being away for 15 years and I'm hanging out with my old friend again. We've kept in touch all these years and from a distance she seemed to be hitting some of the similar milestones as I have: education, job, relationships etc. However on closer inspection her life seems to be stuck in time. She still rents the same house as when she was 19, her furniture is the same, she works in the same place and her personality is that of someone a lot younger. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the above, but I get the sense she is frustrated by her own inability to move forward. In addition after over 10 years of therapy, some her her psychological issues remain unchanged and no progress has seemingly been made. In fact, I would describe her anxiety and things cause by the anxiety a lot worse. She recently made a comment about watching her friends lives move on and her still being where she is so there is a frustration there. I'm naturally very goal driven and really struggle to understand her situation. I'm just not sure her therapy is working ( not my place to comment?) and it's like she's never fully grown up. However she seems saddened by this. Should I try to help or even approach the topic? From my perspective I see a hugely intelligent woman who hasn't been able to apply herself but who's to say everyone needs to have a high-driving cater etc. I just don't think she's happy in her current situation. Any advice? Link to comment
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