Datkid16 Posted July 1, 2017 Share Posted July 1, 2017 Hey everyone, First time posting here. I'm a 22 year old guy, and my girlfriend and I split up for good in the beginning of February 2017. Previously, we had been in an on-off relationship for the past 6 months of a 3 year long relationship. Although she kept pushing to be back together, I was too self-absorbed and disinterested during this period to care. As a result, she eventually found another guy and started dating him. Although I didn't want to be with her in a relationship sense (or so I thought), seeing her with someone else crushed me. She frienzoned me incredibly hard, and I began to search around the web for ways to win her back. After trying almost every tactic, and making an ass out of myself/pushing myself into further despair I finally decided to go with the "tactic" that was the hardest but paid off the best. By going no contact, I effectively was able to push her out of my life and slowly started feeling better. No contact not only enables you to start forgetting about her, but allows her to miss you as well. I met this beautiful girl about a month and a half ago, and through her I have seen how terrible my ex really was to me. I went through an intense depression phase while trying to win my ex back, which included not eating, restlessness, and grief. It was so difficult at certain points, that I wanted to inflict harm upon myself. Looking back, I realize how foolish that was because she was my ex for a reason and I simply wasn't happy with her. However, our mind plays tricks on us when the ones we were with go to someone else, and that sense of jealousy is overbearing. Yesterday night, after 6 weeks, my ex reached out to me telling me that her new BF was physically abusive to her. I handled it like a man, and was polite and told her that she should get a restraining order. However, after talking to her and making sure she was okay, I made it known to her that I couldn't go over and see her because I had someone else in my life and GOTDAMN if that wasn't the best feeling ever. The saying that they come back when you least expect it is 120% true. Today, I'm much happier with this new girl and I credit NO contact as being the thing that turned my life around and allowed me to get over my ex. If you guys/gals have any questions, I'll try to the most I can! Link to comment
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