jmann45 Posted June 29, 2017 Share Posted June 29, 2017 Hello, I am a 23 year old male, introvert, going to school, working, had hobbies ect. Ive noticed that when I get into a relationship, i start to lose my want and determination to life, which then goes to me looking insecure and looking like someone who just doesnt have his life together. It only happens when I get into a commited relationship. Mayhbe 3-4 months down the line. I start finding everything my partner does as "annoying" and childish. I lose my motivation to go to the gym, to work on my car, to play my guitar, ect.. I mainly just go to work (which i find boring at this point.. and dont want to do that either) and come home and eat snacks and sleep. And hang out with my significant other and do activities that I find boring. To clarify this last part i just said, in the beginning of the relationship I feel like doing everything, such as taking them traveling with me, hiking, eating out, going to the gym ect. All these activities i enjoy doing with them. And that is what initially attracts the girl to me in my opinion. I have so much fun and a great time. But down the line, 5 months out, i dont want to do anything. I dont want to drive there, i dont want to pick her up anymore, i dont want to go out.. ect. I just want to stay in my little town and if she wants, she can come here. She lives about 20 mins from me, which isnt a problem at all. I just dont put in the effort like i used to. I am in a relationship now and am starting to feel this way. And i have now noticed that this happens in every relationship. Its annoying and makes my partner like me less. Which is completely understandable. I havent gone to the gym in over a month and have gained about 10 pounds from sitting around. Im not motivated to do anything. She has tried new things out like buy lingerie, take me to new places, ect. But im just bored. Dont want to do anything. Is there a cure for this or is this normal? Does this happen to you guys sometimes? Why does it happen? Im just confused. Link to comment
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