Miastar Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 It seems like many of the men I date don't want to be solely committed to one girl. They enjoy seeking attention from other women in forms such as dating apps, liking girls other pictures online, keeping in contact/keeping around exes from long ago.. Is this normal in relationships? Or does everyone have varying degrees of what they find acceptable? Do these types of people end up with partners who are totally okay with this? Or do they one day find someone who makes them think "wow, I simply don't need attention from anyone else as this person is everything I ever wanted!" I know there is no definitive answers here, I just wondered if anyone had any ideas on this too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fireflies Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Great question! I think people don't settle down until they're ready and that it's possible that there are many who will never be ready. If attention is what they truly seek, no one person will ever satisfy them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustysuit Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I'm a one girl type of guy, so yeah. There are people like this. I don't even have social media so there's no risk of me "liking" other girls pictures. But we live in a time where it's so easy to "connect" with someone that it's hard to find someone willing to really commit. Especially when they're young. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miastar Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 Great question! I think people don't settle down until they're ready and that it's possible that there are many who will never be ready. If attention is what they truly seek, no one person will ever satisfy them. I guess a lot of the time I beat myself up because I feel I should give more, be more, be the reason they stop seeking attention elsewhere. I blame myself but sometimes I take a step back and think it's not all my fault. I feel like I'm always competing. I'd like to know there is someone out there who would want solely me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miastar Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 I'm a one girl type of guy, so yeah. There are people like this. I don't even have social media so there's no risk of me "liking" other girls pictures. But we live in a time where it's so easy to "connect" with someone that it's hard to find someone willing to really commit. Especially when they're young. Good on you Yes the whole social media and online dating is so prevalent. I guess I assumed a lot of people my age and older were over that but maybe I'm looking in the wrong places - I'm 26 and thought my ex - 30 - would be done with all that. But he wasn't. It's draining. I just wonder when it all stops - when people who do these things decide to stop living online and see what is there in front of them/the real world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 When you find yourself the common denominator, I've found it more advantageous to look inward than outward. Plenty of men out there looking for one lady. Though if you're raising stinks / insecurities over facebook likes, you'll have a hard time keeping good men around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaHermes Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 No, Mia, this is not normal in a relationship. They enjoy seeking attention from other women in forms such as dating apps, liking girls other pictures online, keeping in contact/keeping around exes from long ago.. Any partner (LTR/marriage) who is OK with that kind of immaturity and insecurity in his/her partner needs help. Fortunately, not everyone is an information highway groupie, there are well-adjusted mature people out there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miastar Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 When you find yourself the common denominator, I've found it more advantageous to look inward than outward. Plenty of men out there looking for one lady. Though if you're raising stinks / insecurities over facebook likes, you'll have a hard time keeping good men around. Yep I hear that! I majorly need to focus on my insecurities (hello therapy!) and I'm pretty ashamed of some of my actions from past relationships in regards to this topic. It just.. can't all be me can it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 What is the general age group of the men in question, and where do you meet them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nutbrownhare Posted July 4, 2017 Share Posted July 4, 2017 It all depends on what you mean by female attention. It's certainly possible, if not desirable, to have opposite sex friends and still be very committed to your partner. Liking FB posts is just that - liking FB posts. Again, it has nothing to do with your commitment to your partner. It is not wrong or immoral to have more than one source of emotional support. Committed does not equal clingy. In fact, I recall an expression: "One and only" will lead to "None and lonely". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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