BlueEternity Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 My boyfriend of about six months is a great guy, but he is not great on picking up unspoken cues, and this particularly comes out when it is time to leave, or rather, when I think it is time to leave. Whether it is a party, an evening with his parents or mine, just a hangout, or even a conversation in a parking lot, he always seems to draw out the ending much longer than it should be. He doesn't seem to pick up on signals like me standing up, picking up my purse and putting it on, moving closer to the door, glancing repeated at a clock, etc. We have ended up as the only ones in a parking lot after an event on more than one occasion (me standing next to the driver's door, his car across the lot), his mother has explicitly told him "you need to take your girlfriend home now" the last two times I have been at their house, and my family has commented on his lingering as well, (It was well after midnight when he left my sister's graduation party... almost an hour after the other guests had left), so I know this is not just in my head, although as a highly introverted person, I am probably more sensitive to it than most. Usually, when we go out together, it's not too much of an issue, and when I drive myself somewhere, I CAN always say "Okay, I'm heading home now," although frequently he doesn't give me a "natural" exit when I am signalling I am getting tired. But I find it a much stickier situation when he has driven me somewhere or he is at my place. I don't want to be the kind of person who orders their boyfriend to take them home, and I have never known how to politely tell anyone to leave. Like I said, I am a very introverted person who usually finds it easier to deal with things I don't like than to make a fuss. Any tips for how I can (kindly and respectfully) let my boyfriend know when it's time to go? Link to comment
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