JustinPonders Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 (((This paragraph is not important, bonus material))) Before I get to my point I just wanted to mention that yesterday I had an amazing moment. Albeit it was brief and I knew it would be because it's happened before where I eventually settled in self-pity, but I enjoyed that short moment nevertheless. So unfortunately my job as a driver gives me plenty of time to think and a-thinkin' is all I do. It's automatic. And of course what do I think of 75% of the time? You guessed it, ex. I dread driving now because I know where my thinking always goes. Anyway, I was feeling really good yesterday, just before my shift. I worked out, groomed myself nicely, dressed nice. I was feeling attractive and confident. Then I get into my car and started driving. And while I was driving I kept thinking to myself, "Wow, I'm actually feeling awesome! This feels like my old self!" I was soaking in everything around me with a genuine smile. I was so happy. Haven't felt like this in a long, long time I'll be honest. But, I knew in the back of my head it was only going to last a short period before I sunk back into my deep thoughts of ex. And that is exactly what happened after 2 hours. I mean I wasn't as bad as before but needless to say I got back to my normal, somber mood which really irritated me. What is the point of me saying this? Well, I suppose I at least enjoyed a good 2 hours of peace and liberation. Now if I can just feel this way throughout my day, 7 days a week, haha (((This is the point of the thread))) I need your advice on a somewhat important subject matter. Next month I'm invited to a party. My ex's sister and fiance will be there. I get along with them very well. I know for a fact that my ex's sister will eventually approach me and start fishing for information. And I know for a fact she'll start asking me about my personal life like if I'm dating yada, yada, yada. And what I'm especially nervous about is her talking about my ex in some form or fashion. She did last time and the time before that when I seen her. Obviously I'm still very much in love with my ex so I really don't want to hear anything about her. I never bring her up and try to steer the conversation away from it as best as I can. I've even stopped going on facebook because now my ex is friends with my brothers wife again and is liking her posts. So that started raising my hopes up not to long ago and I fell into depression over thinking it all. So my question is how should I handle my ex's sister if she starts asking me about my romantic department like whether or not I'm dating or have a love interest? Should I lie to her? Be honest with her and say I've been a lonely loser lately lol? Also, what I'm most afraid of is if she brings up my ex again. The sheer terror of her telling me she's involved with someone might tear me to pieces. I mean if I feel it going the slightest in that direction I'll try to deflect it the best I can but if it's unexpected or unavoidable how should I handle it? I'll be honest her sister for sure, 100% is going to tell my ex every word I utter. I want to sound good, confident. Even if I have to lie lol. I know this is me pinning on some hope but I don't care, it's all I got atm so I need to make the best of this situation. Most of why I want to make sure my ex hears good things about me is that because I lost so much of my dignity and respect in her eyes and because I still love her and I'm not gonna lie, what she thinks of me is still very important, sadly. Nothing I can do about this for the time being. I just have to roll with the punches until I hopefully, eventually find my way to leave her behind. Until then what would you guys suggest? What should I say? How should I act? I have a good idea but I need other's input as comparison. Please, please help me out here ena friends! Thank you! Link to comment
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