beng192 Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 I guess I just want some feedback and honest replies as my head is completely gone again. Me and my ex gf have been in no contact for a few months now. The last time we spoke I said I couldn't be friends and that I needed to concentrate on myself. She didn't really fight for me and so that was that. Her reasons for breaking up with me was she didn't want a relationship right now, lost the spark, was at uni bla bla. I tried everything to make us work and told her I want to work and fight for this but she was adamant she didn't want to. A few weeks/month later I find out she has a new guy and it killed me. Feelings of being lied to, betrayed etc. I kept everything inside and continued NC and trying to move on. I completely dropped off the face of the earth to her and deleted all my social media. Anyway yesterday completely out of the blue I get a text in the morning saying "hey, I'm only texting you to see if you're okay? Because I literally had a dream that you had a car crash and that" as I deleted her number I wasn't 100% sure if it was her but I thought it might of been. So I waited until I finished work and replied simply "sorry who's this?" To which I get an instant reply "(her name) but it doesn't matter now" I reply saying "I thought it might of been you, just wanted to double check though. I'm okay? What doesn't matter?" She replies "ahh good, just wanted to check up on you and that's it" so I simply replied "okay that's cool" and that was it. The reason I replied and kept it short was simply I don't want to come across as bitter and show her I'm still hurt. Fast forward to around 11pm and she text me again "okay, sorry for such a random message but that dream scared the out of me so had to make sure your okay" I replied this morning just saying "no worries" and I'm not expecting nothing more from that now. I know my replies were blunt but she stated the reason for getting in contact was just to check im okay and nothing more. The reason I replied and kept it short was simply I don't want to come across as bitter and show her I'm still hurt. I have turned very cold since and I just don't open up anymore. I'm in no position to continue contact with her and ask about her as I'm still emotionally struggling. I guess I'm just wondering why after 2/3 months would she text me out of the blue like that? I don't want to start overthinking as she said herself it was just to check up on me but why? What can I take from her about her few texts and where she's at? Is that proof I'm still in her thoughts? Does she miss me? I feel like all my little progress I've made has just gone. this girl really broke me and she knows that. What would she think of my replies and how I handled it? Ahh I'm just lost. Sorry for dragging it on but any feedback would be greatly appreciated Link to comment
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