Ex girlfriend

[Brokenheartedm]

Ex girlfriend keeps talking about our past says she still has feelings for me but is afraid to be hurt and since we failed we will fail again. I tell her when we enter new relationships thats it cause its disrespectful to new parnters and she flips out ???

[WombatShadow]

She wants to keep you on the backburner in case her future potential relationship doesn't work out. Also, her feelings on getting hurt again are completely valid. It can be terrifying being "bitten" twice by the same relationship. Fool me once, etc. etc.

 

Have you actually done anything to make changes to yourself and your approach to relationships? Has she? If the answer to either of those questions is "no", the two of you shouldn't try to jump back into this thing. If she does have feelings for you, ask her if she would be willing to work on slowly rebuilding it together while working on your problems as individuals and as a couple. If she's not willing to, then you have her answer.

 

The long and the short of it is that if she wants you around enough, she'd be willing to date you. If she won't date you but she won't let you go either, it's becoming toxic.