daydreamer71 Posted June 16, 2017 Share Posted June 16, 2017 I have posted on here in the past about my breakup, his rebound, and most recently about our reconciliation. We stayed together for 4 months and after a insignificant disagreement he ended things again. This is a warning to the ones who are having trouble staying in NC. I didn't, even while he was in his rebound relationship during our first break up. We never went more than a few weeks without contacting each. I convinced myself it was because we truly loved each other. That our bond was so strong that we couldn't be without one another. What was actually happening was that I was helping him get over me by letting him slowly wean himself away instead of letting him.experience the pain of losing me. I was hurting and grasping at straws wanting him.back, while he was keeping me on a back burner just in case. This last breakup is different. He was cold and distant from the start and even encouraged me to move on. At this point we haven't had any contact in over 6 weeks. The last contact was an argument and he said I would never hear from.him again. I wrote him an email a few week later apologizing for my part. No response and I don't expect any. My warning is this- if you want your ex back, go no contact as soon as possible after your breakup. It may not work, but for me staying in contact made his decision to breakup easier for him. I truly believe if I had cut him out of my life completely the first breakup we would probably have ended up staying together. He never experienced losing me. He knew I loved him and that I was waiting. I may be wrong as I am surely no relationship expert, but I believe that letting him miss me would have given me a better outcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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