lover4721 Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 My ex has stalked my tumblr page for quite a while now... Ever since we broke up, she has been visiting it several times a week, sometimes only once a week, and then maybe 1-2 weeks OFF and then back on again. After two months of breaking up, I saw she was visiting my site in the logs. I sent her a greetings card congratulating her for graduating college. She must have got the card today. My name was not on it. She said she appreciated it, but has moved on. WE talked -- she said it's been almost three years and she has changed, got a new hair style, etc. She said she moved on... but still stalks me. She's the type that wants a man to 'fight' for her - something I didn't do in the relationship. We talked about what happened about us, we needed to communicate more, etc. She said looking back, it would not have lasted much longer because she switched career goals, moving out to the Disney College Program, changed her hair, and is a new person. She said she learned from our relationship and others and believes it is in the past. I never asked for her back... I simply said "Yes, sometimes I think about you." If I don't reply, she will reply back with something else. She said she feels uncomfortable that I'm still hung over on this. I am not hung over on this -- I am just regretful that my job made me so miserable that I kind of withdrew from the relationship and that I could have done better. I took the blame, and she agreed that 'WE' needed to fix those things, but again 'it's in the past'. Her Father cheated on her Mother... She is not that mentally stable... She wants someone to 'obsess' over her, just to know that they care. I'm not sure what to do -- should I continue to talk to her, maybe tell her that if she ever wants to get together and do something in the future let me know, or just let her alone at the last message that said "I'm glad you moved on. I have too." It's like, I want to get back together to prove her wrong and really put my best foot forward because we truly loved each other... But she has been in tough relationships and has said "You're right about assuming I wasn't ready for a relationship. I don't think I'll ever be ready, I don't think I'll ever have a serious relationship to be honest." Her Mom is single, too. Not really sure how to approach this -- she stalks me, says she has moved on, but then also wants someone to 'fight' for her. I do still have feelings for her... And after two years she still stalks me - what does that even mean? One thing she didn't like was that sometimes I didn't say goodnight to her - so instead of ignoring her, maybe a goodnight will help and heal us so that we are both neutral even if we don't talk again? This was the first time talking since December '15. Link to comment
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