s0fly Posted June 12, 2017 Share Posted June 12, 2017 Hi everyone, So I was seeing this guy for a little over a year, and a few days ago we completely stopped communication. Reason being is because when I tried to define our "relationship status" and asked him if he saw us being in a relationship, he responded with "I do see us in a relationship.. in the future". This really confused and disappointed me because he's been talking to me every day, seeing me on a regular basis and it seemed as if we were already in a relationship without the "title". He continued saying that he "wasn't ready to be in a official relationship because he's currently more focused on his career, that a relationship is too much work for him right now and he's happy with the way things are"... Meanwhile it seems as if we were in a relationship this whole time.. So it really confused me when he said all this. So I asked him, how do you expect for us to have a relationship in the future if you're not willing to put in more work for it now? I also said that it sounds like he is pretty confused as to what he wants and told him that he should take some time to himself for a bit and figure out what he wants. I said that I hope I'll be here when he's ready but can't guarantee it. (as I will be meeting new people/dating to try and move on) At the end of our conversation I said take care and he responded with "i'm always here for you. Don't be a stranger". I'm really sad about how the way things ended. Honestly, I miss our friendship. He's a great guy but he doesn't seem to know what he wants relationship wise. He's 28 years old (i'm 22) and he's really focused on his career, working a ton of crazy hours. However, I do think that if you really wanted to be with someone then you'd atleast try to make it work no matter the circumstances. So I was kind of hurt when he said he wasn't willing to put in more work for a proper relationship. It's been a few days now and I really miss having him as a friend, we were always there as emotional support for each other. I don't know how I should go about getting just the friendship back. Should I reach out myself or wait for him to reach out? Help.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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