Plantingfool Posted June 12, 2017 Share Posted June 12, 2017 Hi All! It's me again! Sorry. So I posted on here right before the weekend and got so much good feedback that I again wanted to post here. Update from last post: I have decided to really have a good conversation with my SO about the co-op and he seems to now see my side of things and is supportive. He has expressed that it is my money and I can really do anything that I want with it but hopes that me purchasing a place will not put a hault on our relationship when the time comes for us to move in together. I am still feeling a bit rejected about him not feeling ready to move in together or get engaged but I'm slowly coming around. After reading so many of your posts I have decided that it's okay that he is not ready right now. But I have set a time frame. I have decided that if nothing happens from now until January then I will bring up the conversation with him again. I don't want to be the needy girlfriend who winds up pushing him away because of this conversation. So I am letting it go for now and hey who knows. Maybe I will be posting on here in a couple of months saying I'm engaged or posting on here that the time frame is over and I have a decision to make. But I am so in love with this man and going to spend my summer in love and happy instead of dwelling on this. I might need to vent here every now and then. After posting I was thinking that I could poll you guys to find out: a. how long did you and your partners date before getting married? b. How long were you engaged before you tied the knot? c. How old where you guys when it happened? d. how long have you been married? Just curious. This summer we are planning a big trip Greece. We are spending 2 nights in Athens, 2 nights in Mykonos, and 3 nights in Santorini. My co-workers, my friends, and my family keep saying things like I bet you are going to get engaged on your trip. I have just been smiling and saying I'm just looking forward to our time and trip. Secretly I totally wish that I would be getting engaged in Santorini. It is just so beautiful there. I know that it wont happen but it is wishful thinking. I am just going to travel with the love of my life and enjoy our wonderful (expensive) trip. I find that I am being a bit oversensitive. This weekend celebrated his parents 45th wedding anniversary and it's amazing that after 45 years his parents are still so in love. They have a respect for eachother that is unbelievable to see. I want that!!! We want that!!!! We sat around the table and talked about how they meet, there best year of marriage, there worst year of marriage. They shared about difficulties that people have when they are married and how to stick it out. I enjoyed hearing them. When he brought me home we took a walk with the dog and did some talking about our day. He then brought up how he wants that with me. He can't see himself having that with anyone else. But then I said to him that I agreed but didn't want to talk about it now. I think he looked upset. I told him that I love him and I respect his decision about us not moving forward however talking about future plans just makes me a little sad right now and I explained why. He said that he wants to be with me he wants to marry me and have children with me but just not right now. I said that it was OK but I don't want to continue to talk about it until he was really ready to do those things with me and he said that he would respect that. It just makes me nervous to talk about those things. It's like setting me up for failure and heartache. He can say all of these things and what happens if they really don't happen. He told me that we are both on the same page but have different reading times (cute right?) I just feel like we had this super serious conversation expressed where we both were and I just don't feel like we need to keep rehashing it. Anway thanks for taking the time out of your day to read about what is going on in mine. Take care! Link to comment
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