Ex gf advice please

[Rocco10]

Hi new to here I would like some really good advice as I'm struggling at the moment I will try and keep this as short as possible my ex gf says she doesn't know what she wants at the moment and is very vague about explaining anything to me we were together for 6 years lived with each other for 2 of those years it was rocky as she was young but one day I'd had enough so I left and went back home to save money to buy a house but I didn't break up with her I still saw her every week we also have a 8 year old daughter together anyway she got with another guy to get over me but was clearly a rebound as it didn't last but a month and she said she couldn't stop loving me and I was the one she wanted anyway 2 years on we have been seeing each other but not moved forward obviously I've been getting my hopes up as thought it was going to lead somewhere as I miss her and my daughter like mad but about 3 weeks ago we stopped having sex and she has been getting fit which I'm all for and dressing up nice going out but now I hardly hear from her she just says I don't know what I want she's 28 and I'm 38 I said I don't understand if you love someone then you will be with them she said it's not as simple as that she still texts and puts kisses on the end but I'm going out of my mind as I lover her so much she said I can't stop you going out or moving on advice please is she being genuine or is it a term women use?

[SherrySher]

Well, to be fair, you did walk out on her and the baby. I don't know what you were arguing about but young couples argue, you might have thought to go to some kind of counselling together but walking out on her and the baby wasn't right.

 

But now a days, I'm not sure. You seem to have a very tumultuous relationship. I think you're going to have to ask her straight out if she wants to continue having a relationship with you or not.

Obviously it would be good if you stayed together being as it's been a longer relationship and there is a child involved, but you two also need to work on issues if you do decide to remain together.

I really do think the only thing you can do at the present moment is ask her for an answer one way or the other.

[Keyman]

Wow, that sentence was so long it almost made my head hurt.

 

If it was not for the child, I would say 'you are young, get on with your life, forget about her and stop contacting her'. But because you have a child together, things are different.

 

Honestly, it doesn't sound like it is working between you two. The on again off again behaviour will not magically change. Perhaps it is time to step away from her and start focussing on yourself. You will need to maintain contact over the child, but take the onus off the relationship for a while. Let it all cool down for a while and see where things go. But be prepared for this to be the end of the relationship. I'm not saying it will be, just to be prepared.

[Rocco10]

Thanks for your honest reply I have asked her but she keeps saying she doesn't no what she wants at the minute

[Rocco10]

Also I forgot to add my grand mother and grandfather and my father had passed away two to three months ago so I've had all that to cope with as we'll

[Hollyj]

Dude, what happened to punctuation??????

[Hollyj]

Either she wants a reconciliation, or she doesn't. What you are doing now is not working, and unhealthy for your kid.

 

If she doesn't want a reconciliation, you need to stop the part-time relationship, and solely focus on raising your daughter.

 

I think I got the gist of your question. It was hard to read and understand,

[kbbcoop77]

How do you have an 8 year old if you were only together for 6 years?

And walking out on them probably flipped a switch in her

[Rocco10]

Thanks for your honest replies guys sorry for my typing it's not great and sorry I've been with my ex for over 8 years my daughter is turning 8 this month I guess all I want is a second chance to be with her and my daughter but not sure shall I just leave her be and give her space as demanding a answer seems to get me nowhere?

[Zee30]

Hi everyone I need advise on how to get over ur girlfriend who broke up with me I've been with her for 8 years I asked her hand in marriage which she was over the moon but her dad doesn't approve she said she doesn't want to upset her dad and go against his wishes and also said she doesn't see a future with me I even converted religion for her which she wouldn't do the same for me is she worth fighting for or cut my losses and move on ? And do I deserve someone who will fight for me coz I feel like she won't when she said she did but her dad is not buying it

[Hollyj]

Hi everyone I need advise on how to get over ur girlfriend who broke up with me I've been with her for 8 years I asked her hand in marriage which she was over the moon but her dad doesn't approve she said she doesn't want to upset her dad and go against his wishes and also said she doesn't see a future with me I even converted religion for her which she wouldn't do the same for me is she worth fighting for or cut my losses and move on ? And do I deserve someone who will fight for me coz I feel like she won't when she said she did but her dad is not buying it

 

You should start your own thread.

 

There is nothing to fight for. She has chosen her family.

[boltnrun]

Thanks for your honest replies guys sorry for my typing it's not great and sorry I've been with my ex for over 8 years my daughter is turning 8 this month I guess all I want is a second chance to be with her and my daughter but not sure shall I just leave her be and give her space as demanding a answer seems to get me nowhere?

 

So she got pregnant during one of the first times you two had sex?

 

Seems like maybe you two rushed the relationship because she got pregnant.

[Rocco10]

Yeah maybe your right we did move pretty fast after my little girl was born I don't know I txt her and she won't reply I haven't been texting her loads just want to know what she wants it's the not knowing it's been 3 days since we last spoke maybe I should just move on many thanks to all of your honest opinions

[kbbcoop77]

Yeah maybe your right we did move pretty fast after my little girl was born I don't know I txt her and she won't reply I haven't been texting her loads just want to know what she wants it's the not knowing it's been 3 days since we last spoke maybe I should just move on many thanks to all of your honest opinions

Yeah if she's blowing off your texts and not replying your best move is quit texting..get legal advice about your daughter

[Rocco10]

Yeah I hear you very hard to do but I will start today she does eventually answer texts about daughter that's fine she's more than happy for me to have her and see her but it's my daughters birthday this week and I'm going to have to see the ex when I drop her home guess best way for me to act is calm for daughter and not say too much ?