mmendes Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 So, after a while being single, healing from previous relashionship and stuff, I decided I want a boyfriend. I'm not the kind of person who likes to sit and wait for Mr. Right to show up (I don't believe in "sitting and waiting" at all, actually), so I made an account on a dating app. I could try to find someone in the real world,(and I do) but when you do that you just have no clue on weather the person is interested in you, if he wants the same thing as you, etc... What I mean is that it 'd a much longer and more complicated process and that's why I decided to go online. Now, let's go to the problem. I have some sort of "virtual social phobia". I can't stand to text for more than few minutes a day on whats app, I can't stand to be available for long for virtual conversations. It's not just that I don't like it, I actually get physical symptons of anxiety when I do these things. It's not technophobia, since I am very much okay with spending lots of time online, given that it is time spent with myself (researching, watching videos, working...). It's not also shyness: I'm kind of outgoing and willing to have face to face conversations (I actually ask my 'crushs" out quite soon, because otterwise I won't be able to get to know them). But this phobia IS getting in my way and wish I could get rid of it. I hate whatsapp, I hate how it makes me feel like I have no alone time (at any given hour, someone can reach me). There are days in which I can't even touch my cellphone, and sometimes it gets in the way not only of dating, but of keeping in contact with my family, friends and professional coleagues. I just wish people would still use a "slower" mean of comunication, like email, but since I can't change the world, I have to somehow change myself. Does anyone have an advice? Edit: I'm also quite young to have such problem: 22 years old and no one in my generation is like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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