GF and Ex

[Johnnysd]

Gf won't let me help when in need but will accept ex husbands help. I offered to help for an issue coming up and she says Im only offering just so that the ex won't help. I responded that she shouldn't need help from him because I'm with her. There's a reason he's an ex obviously!! I feel completely disrespected and I can't take it. I am extremely hurt by this. How do I bring up the situation to her without trying to be controlling and hurting the relationships ..please help.

[Starlight925]

I agree with you. Why is she even still communicating with him? If they have kids together, that should be their only communication.

 

She is letting him help her so she can keep him in her life.

[Johnnysd]

They do have kids together. They live with her. He visits here and there for them. It should only be that .

[angrythoughts]

What does she need help with?

[Johnnysd]

Just a car issue.

[angrythoughts]

Is it something only her ex is capable of handling ?

[Johnnysd]

Absolutely not. To be more detailed she needs a ride to work which I offered , I even said I would leave work early to pick her up when she's off. It is no inconvenience to me at all. I just want to be there to help her since I am her boyfriend. She says I'm only trying to help to avoid her getting help front the ex(not the reason) but realistically no though.... but it's my duty as a boyfriend to be there at a time of need. Her getting help from him should NOT be an option.

[Starlight925]

You have a right to be upset by this. I know I would be.

[Johnnysd]

In my head I know she knows I won't end it. If I press the issue I fear that she will be mad about it and it will be an issue. I'm so confused, part of me doesn't want to express myself to her because I don't want her to get mad and think I don't trust her. The other part is her thinking I'm like whatever and it doesn't bother me . How do I approach?

[Hollyj]

You need to be done. She is not finished with him, and you know this, Stop prolonging the inevitable. You are allowing her to disrespect you.

[Hollyj]

In my head I know she knows I won't end it. If I press the issue I fear that she will be mad about it and it will be an issue. I'm so confused, part of me doesn't want to express myself to her because I don't want her to get mad and think I don't trust her. The other part is her thinking I'm like whatever and it doesn't bother me . How do I approach?

 

Total doormat talk. She does not value you now, nor will she in the future.

[Careerchoice]

In my head I know she knows I won't end it.

 

If she knows you won't end it, she will end.