lm1990 Posted June 5, 2017 Share Posted June 5, 2017 **This is an update to my previous thread** Hey guys, I'm getting mixed messages from my ex and its driving me crazy!!!!!! Last week we had a big blow up about me going through his things due to him breaking trust last year. After leaving my house at 2am and then not hearing from him, I decided to and show up at his house to talk and basically show him how important he is to me (I left work to do this). When I get there, he barely opens the door and makes me stand there and talk to him for a minute from outside (he's never treated me like this in the 8 years that I've known him before). So he finally lets me in and even though I felt what I did was warranted, I swallowed my pride and apologized. Then he goes on to say that doesn't trust me anymore, he doesn't have to put up with people not respecting his privacy, he feels I have a guilty conscience, he doesn't know if we'll be able to come back from this, he's not going to keep constantly stressing about if I think he's messing around or not, he's gonna start focusing on him and all of this other stuff. I sat back and listened and was apologetic and re-emphasized how I didn't think that this little spat was worth giving up years of friendship and everything else we had. But once I left, what I gathered from the whole conversation was that he was gonna start "doing him" aka talking to other people and we would just be "cool" with each other. This conversation happened on a Tuesday. In between that time, I'm pretty devastated because I haven't heard from him, I feel as if I lost my best friend and I start taking the steps to heal and move on. Fast forward to Friday, I get a phone call from him telling me that he ended up getting this job he interviewed for. Of course I'm happy for him and supportive, as I've always been and then we proceed to stay on the phone and just talk like we always have. We were on the phone for almost an hour. So then he ends up coming over the same day and then doesn't leave until Sunday night. The ENTIRE time he was there, he was behaving as if nothing had ever happened and we were just picking up from where we left off. Not once did he bring up all of the things he said just a few days prior. So now I'm wondering what the hell is going on?? I was thinking that maybe he just got over it or that he knows I'm the only one who has his back other than his mom and that I've been there for him at his lowest. But at the same time I'm wondering if he's trying to worm his way back into my life while still "doing him"?? I'm going to talk to him about it but I also don't want to start another argument. It just frustrates me that he really sat in my face smiling and laughing as if he didn't just do me the way he did a few days before and didn't even try to offer some explanation as to where we stand -__- Link to comment
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