fml1414 Posted June 5, 2017 Share Posted June 5, 2017 29 y.o. female here. After going on a bunch of dates (dating app) - some of whom I liked - I have met someone and pretty-much fell in love with him on the first date. I am a very cautious person and have never felt this way before immediately upon meeting a guy. We have only had 3 dates. He had just found out that he got his dream job (film industry) and is moving across country in a month. In the beginning, he was telling me to stop dating other guys (kind of jokingly), but he had basically told me to move on. It is illogical for me to be in love with him; I don't think the feelings are because he is unavailable (felt this way before I knew he was moving). I am not able to move - in grad school, plus it would be somewhat insane and scary/clingy to suggest this (hey, I know we've just met, but I'm totally in love with you and if you tell me to move, I will...). This guy is literally perfect for me. He is extremely attractive physically (to me), yet he doesn't know it. He is mildly shy and melancholic, yet kinky and dominant in bed. I am attracted to his looks, personality, intellect, sense of humor, voice, and weirdness. I have literally never felt so comfortable with and close to another human being (have been married before and had another long term relationship that ended 2 months ago). I have never had anyone else look at me the way he looks at me. He is also 29 like me. He is not the type to attract a lot of females and has not had any relationships longer than a year. He is definitely somewhat of a loner, but he is not the angry/mean loaner type. He is overly cautious as far as dating goes, so it is possible that he is going to be alone for a while (never assume, but...). I know that I need to get over him (and I know that I can; unfortunately, I get over people quickly), but somehow I don't want to be over him. 1. Would it be creepy to tell him that I want to stay in touch after he moves? I am not 100% sure of his intentions. I figure, worst that can happen is that I'll embarrass myself. 2. Also, would it be desperate to come visit him a few months after he moves? Again, might totally creep him out or scare him. 3. Should I tell him that I'm in love with him before he leaves? 4. I graduate in a year... but supposed to do a fellowship afterwards, although I can change that around and move in a year. I am absolutely willing to wait. Has anyone done this successfully? 5. Has anyone done anything crazy for love? Was it worth it? Do you regret it? 6. Should I just let him go? Enjoy our last month together and try not to get too attached? Has anyone had an experience like that? I don't really believe in long distance relationships (I did have two when I was younger), but I can't help but think that I'm losing "the one". Right now, I'm willing to do whatever to be with this guy, which sounds absolutely insane coming from a practical/less emotion-driven person like me. I know that he really likes me (I think I like him even more) - but I don't think he is the type to jump into anything. Not to sound full of myself, but I am a "good catch"/attract a lot of men (for the sake of full picture). Sorry for the long post. Please help. Link to comment
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