Annia Posted June 9, 2017 Share Posted June 9, 2017 I remember thinking, Well, I can keep going like this. Or, I can change. Change was a must. There was no way I could sustain the dramatic cycle of attachment and abandonment I had been creating for myself. So happy now. Single for two years and still going. Not as much hanky panky. The difference is: this is by choice, my choice. I go on dates, and I keep learning every day and with each date. A few years ago, change was dramatic. It set me on a positive, forward-looking, life-affirming path. Impacted everything. Glad glad glad. I'm taking inspiration from you. Besides this past experience I had, I've been single for years. I've had dates, flings and everything but never a committed relationship. However it wasn't by choice. I was needy, sad and relied on men to build my fragile self esteem and to get validation. So, like you, I'd sustain a cycle of attachment and abandonment that left me more and more broken inside. However I'm changing and on a path to self love and emotional independence. Sometimes we need to hurt so bad that there's no other way besides saying to ourselves "It's enough!". Pain sometimes is our wake up call for deeper issues and symptoms of things that aren't ok with us and that we need to work on. Link to comment
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