reinventmyself Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Two things. First off, you need to treat this like an addiction. Much like an alcoholic or drug addict, you must abstain. One look/ one drink and you've fallen off the wagon and need to start all over again. Every moment/every day you resist you are that much closer to the other side. I don't know about you but I would want to get this behind me a.s.a.p. So if you have the choice (and you do) don't check on her. Secondly, studies show that looking at pictures or voices that remind you light up nerve centers in your brain. You awaken these nerve centers and keep them alive by keeping track of her and continually exposing yourself. The goal here is to detach and you do so by blocking all means of communication and all means of checking on her. Recognize like most addicts it's much like detoxing and it gets harder before it gets better, but you commit to getting this behind you. Link to comment
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