Is he playing games?

[yourgirl]

A few years back when I joined a new organization, I was introduced to a guy who was a senior. Both of us in our late 30s, married, with kids. We were on hi and hello terms. But what I realized after sometime that he made longer eye contacts and made his presence felt around me. I was nice to him, but yes, I did feel a flutter or two, since he was too hot. Then started a time when he just stopped saying his usual hellos and avoided me. We had no conversation till then. But something was just crazy! I would admit, i was crushing on him. Although I just let it go thinking it's not something I wanted to pursue. And it settled down for sometime. Then some 1.5 years back we had an event which both of us were organizing. So we started talking, but it was only at a professional level. But I could feel that he was giving me some unusual attention though! During our meetings, he couldn't sustain eye contact for long and was visibly trying to glance at me when I wasn't looking at him. After the even was over, he sent me an FB request which I did accept. All these while, he did not ever like my pictures or status or try to chat up with me. And my crush for him was also had withered away to an extent. But a round two months back, we met at the gym. And I wasn't aware that we were members of the same gym. He chatted for a while. And then, he stopped at the pantry one day at work and talked to me for a while. Then one day in the elevator, etc. Those were usual talks about gym and stuff. Then one day, he just sent me a FB message complimenting my DP. And as a nice gesture, I sent a thanks note. And he started chatting with me. I also answered and those were quite neutral ones...like keep posting nice pics, why don't u use snapchat... keep in touch online and offline. I added him on snapchat. And then his messages were flirty. Like a particular color suits me and I should wear it often and nice things that I started to enjoy. But suddenly, he has stopped initiating chats now, but would chat if I do. Chats are still flirty. With emojis. But I have started liking them. sometimes he won't even answer to my chats, although would stop to talk to me in the workplace. What's going on? I feel so taken for a ride. Believe me I don't want to get sucked into this and trying to avoid and ignore him. But why am I expecting his messages and wait for him to talk to me..Help me! Don't want to be drawn into something pathetic.

[madi10]

Both of us in our late 30s, married, with kids.

This should be a huge red flag dont waste your time on something so selfish that your children would be ashamed of you for. Also keep in mind good men are always loyal so if he has a wife and hes talking to you like that hes a natural cheat who is unhappy in his life because he cant control himself. STAY AWAY ok this will singlehandedly ruin your life and in a month or so he'll probably be looking for other women anyways dont think you can change him no matter who you are. Those types of men need help not from the women they meet but from a psychiatrist.

[thealchemist]

Sounds like you are wanting this a lot. I would ignore him and work on your marriage. If you are seeking this you have some stuff that needs attention.

[ThatwasThen]

You're on a slippery slope, Op.