My boyfriend sends messages to himself?

[Virallad]

My boyfriend and I got back together for 10 months now after a 2 month break up when I caught him cheating on me.

 

We went to a couple counselling which helped a lot and I have seen so so much improvement and better communication between each other. He has been 100% committed to me and only took me as the high priority

 

But my mind is starting to play up on me and doubts. He has been on the phone a lot lately surfing. Usually on twitter. I had the itch to check on his phone when he wasn't around today. Went to his Snapchat, and I found that he "snapped" to himself. I don't know much about snapchat but looking alone. You can't send snaps to yourself. I want to face him but it looks over dramatic and unfair for his hard work in this relationship and will make him think he wasn't doing enough to gain my full trust after 10 months

[MissCanuck]

There is still a lot damaged trust. I don't use Snapchat but these mysterious snaps are a symptom of the bigger problem between you two.

 

Why did you take him back? How long had you been together before he cheated, and how long did he cheat? (that you know of, of course)

[mustlovedogs]

You can send snaps to yourself. But I don't get why you would.

[Virallad]

I took him back because I know that both of us were the cause of the first round relationship to sink. I blame myself and I was too controlling to him at first time.

 

We have been together for two years before we broke up and he was cheating on me for a month, on snapchat may I add. The reason being was he was moving to a new university so he was tempted with the new lifestyle and wanted to start fresh with himself. But I guess two months into break up he realised it's a mistake

[Virallad]

Same here. I'm terrified to even ask. I mean if he did something guilty he would have removed the conversation icon by deleting the history. But he didn't. I would think someone who cheat would do it very carefully

 

But it's still so suspicious to send himself snaps. Although I can't see the content of the snaps and he has been using his phone so much lately

[MissCanuck]

Eh, I personally would not have gone back to a guy like this.

 

Cheated for a month? That's serious deception. It's not as though it was a drunken one-night hookup or some such thing. He's not trustworthy. On that alone, I'd leave him and find a guy who loves you enough to keep it in his pants so you don't have to live under this cloud of suspicion and fear that he's up to his old tricks.

 

And you being controlling would have been a reason for him to end the relationship, not cheat on you. It's always amazing to me how much betrayed partners try to blame themselves for the infidelity. But girl, this is not worth it and it wasn't your fault. I've been where you are. It's not a nice place and there are much higher-quality men out there. You sound young; don't sell yourself short with a man who acts on his attraction to other women and lies to you about it.

[IAmFCA]

Same here. I'm terrified to even ask. I mean if he did something guilty he would have removed the conversation icon by deleting the history. But he didn't. I would think someone who cheat would do it very carefully

 

But it's still so suspicious to send himself snaps. Although I can't see the content of the snaps and he has been using his phone so much lately

 

Why is it suspicious? I text myself, a way of remembering something or getting an idea out. Maybe similar?

[Virallad]

Texting yourself in messages makes sense. But on snapchat. Specifically that messages on snapchat deletes after opening it doesn't make any sense