CuriousCat17 Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 Need honest opinons.... I have FWB guy who knows that I would like to date him (go places with him, do things, etc....nothing major been single for a long time not really looking for a relationship) We started getting really close, and then the holidays rolled around and he suddenly started seeing somebody.. at first he and this woman were supposedly exclusive. But now when I mention her at all he doesn't say a word.. (I know that they are still seeing each other) But I think it is to get even with the ex... and either he is using her or they are just friends and are not really dating) a little background...recently divorced... and his ex started seeing somebody and introduced him to their kids. Oh and he never allows the tag to his page on FB of posts that he's tagged in.... Thoughts... is this relationship real? Or just a front? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 I don't think it matters -why do you think it matters and why do you think it's your business anyway? And if you feel that he is using her then why do you even want to associate with a person who would do that? I think it's fine to keep having your sexual arrangement if that's worth it to you and if you are comfortable with the probability that he is having sex with at least one other person. It doesn't sound like he is interested in dating you and it doesn't sound like that is something that is likely to change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted June 1, 2017 Share Posted June 1, 2017 I have FWB guy who knows that I would like to date him (go places with him, do things, etc....nothing major been single for a long time not really looking for a relationship) ^ In one breath you're "not really looking for a relationship" Yet, in the next breath...this. Thoughts... is this relationship real? Or just a front? Either way, why devalue yourself and accept crumbs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted June 1, 2017 Share Posted June 1, 2017 The man is pretending to be with someone else, that should be enough for you to back away. Don't let any man treat you like this. If he has to make up someone else in order to get away from you or get you to not ask for a commitment, then that is just plain wrong. This woman could be real, or could be fake, but the bottom line here and his clear message is, that you are not good enough for a relationship with him, you are only good enough for sex. Don't let him do that to you! That's humiliating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted June 1, 2017 Share Posted June 1, 2017 Does it matter if it's a real relationship or not, really? You're too attached to him and are going to get hurt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted June 1, 2017 Share Posted June 1, 2017 The man is pretending to be with someone else, that should be enough for you to back away. Don't let any man treat you like this. If he has to make up someone else in order to get away from you or get you to not ask for a commitment, then that is just plain wrong. This woman could be real, or could be fake, but the bottom line here and his clear message is, that you are not good enough for a relationship with him, you are only good enough for sex. Don't let him do that to you! That's humiliating. Not necessarily -takes two to tango and she was fine with the sexual arrangement and didn't seem to be because he wasn't good enough for a relationship -maybe he feels the same. I do agree that his shadiness about the other woman could speak negatively about his character and integrity. Or it could be that since they both agreed to a sexual arrangement, once he met someone he wanted to date, he stopped or decreased his interactions with the OP - she is speculating on what's going on and it's partly because she lied to herself -she agreed to a sexual arrangement when she really wanted more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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