Blocked then unblocked- confusing signals from ex

[Codi88]

I'm keeping this very short. My ex is confusing me. The other day he blocked then unblocked me the same day- I didn't even care, I just left it at that and didn't contact him. I was actually cool and just doing me. Then a couple days later I randomly wake up to a 4-minute long voice note explaining he had blocked me because I had been annoying him with my texts (I had, I admit) and that I needed to leave him alone until there's a time he feels we can be civil/friendly. I really didn't need an explanation as to why he blocked me because 1. I knew it's because I was texting him too much 2. I wasn't really that phased by it and 3. It was two days too late to explain why he blocked me. So to then have to hear his voice and his words just took me back to square one and any progress was shattered. Once again.

There seems to be a pattern that he will request for me to leave him alone and 'focus on myself', yet as soon as I do exactly that, I hear from him and I'm back under his thumb. I get so mad at myself for falling into what always feels like a trap every single time. It just almost seems like although he tells me to 'do me' and blah blah, within a matter of weeks, I can almost guarantee i'll hear from him. No contact doesn't work because he always breaks it for me.

I'm confused- I feel pushed away but at the same time, it's like he never wants me to go TOO far from him.

Has anyone else experienced these kind of conflicting signals or know what may be going on here?

[nutbrownhare]

Has anyone else experienced these kind of conflicting signals or know what may be going on here?

 

Conflicting signals? Yes. Ignore them or they'll mess with your mind. YOU can block as well, you know!

[Andrina]

You have to be proactive and block him from everything. You keep him on your mind by texting him and his presence intrudes in your closure when he communicates with you. He's in your past. Your relationship didn't work. You can't move on when you keep speaking to each other. It doesn't matter what he thinks or feels. Your emotional wellbeing matters, and that means starting a new life totally free of the ex.

[Tomthumb88]

Who broke up with who and do you want to reconcile?

[HeartGoesOn]

Has anyone else experienced these kind of conflicting signals or know what may be going on here?

 

There's nothing confusing here, he's using these games as a means of being in control, and you're playing directly into his hands. You're better off by calling his bluff, and refusing to participate in this nonsense.

 

In short, this is not about keeping you close, but more so his lack of maturity.

[Codi88]

Technically I ended it because I told him to bring me my stuff as I was 'done' after days of feuding but I retracted my statement almost instantly as I was upset- but it was too late. That's the basic premise of the story.

[MyLifeMyChoice]

Technically I ended it because I told him to bring me my stuff as I was 'done' after days of feuding but I retracted my statement almost instantly as I was upset- but it was too late. That's the basic premise of the story.

 

So he called your bluff. He probably still has feelings but got tired of the games and doesn't want to deal with it anymore.

[HeartGoesOn]

Technically I ended it because I told him to bring me my stuff as I was 'done' after days of feuding but I retracted my statement almost instantly as I was upset- but it was too late. That's the basic premise of the story.

 

You're not "done" until you block him from all means of communication. In short, he doesn't want you, yet doesn't want anyone else to have you. There's no prize to be had here.