hiroshi808 Posted May 30, 2017 Share Posted May 30, 2017 She's 30. I'm 33. Have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old baby girl. We have been living seperate until we moved into my own home *extra house*. Very Lucky my grandparents left this for me or my brothers. We moved ending of Feb 2017. 1st or 2 months was good. A lot of family time etc... We was supposed to make another baby. After that it went down hill until she met a girl at her work place. She never did have close friends, she was always with her mom before. This girl been coming to our home at least 5 days out of the week. They hang out on their days off. Sometimes to 3am in the morning. They talk. Girl talk. Cook dinner. Her friend massage pretty good etc... it didn't bother me until I notice she comes like everyday. They watch movies together, go out to eat at restaurants etc.. Well truth to be told, my ex now. Is bisexual and her friend to. Outside perspective by me and my brother and his girlfriend, can see their is a connection between them two. I can be wrong or blind. You can notice of someone like someone in general. Anyways we been fighting a lot, a lot. Mostly her friend coming over to give us alone time, stupid things etc... We been living in seperate rooms for the past 2 months or so because she blames my bed being to soft. So she sleeps with the baby in the other room. Our sex life before was once a month for the past 2 years. She said it was the hormones. Obviously I focus more on to my baby with out fighting it. She broke up with me about little over a week. I had to confront her. What's the deal with this girl? Big fight. She pack her stuff went to her mom house 10 minutes away. She comes back to talk. I used my brother Girl friend as a mediator. My girl can be very violent. Didn't turn out well. Next day she comes back, of spending 4 nights at her mom's house. She said " I'll stay for our daughter but we not together, I have no feelings for you etc..." I am going therapy, before this happen. I go every week last month. Control my anger, my past, alcohol. So the therapist gave me some ideas to help. So I did it with my ex. She agreed to it. Next day her and her mom got into a huge fight. Meaning her mom wants her to stay and work it out. Than the truth comes Out, she said her mom and her step dad and her sister and her bf *they have a child as well*, does not want her to move back in. They live in a pretty small house. Before they always fighting in that house, whole family in general. Unhappy. I try keep my baby away from that home. If she moves back, not sure. Her sister took over her original room and she will live in a sardine can room in size. Anyways, she been here 5 nights. We hardly see each other. She works A.m. and i work p.m. shifts. We take turns watching our daughter. We had a few talks here and there but she argues "none of your business, does it matter, we not together etc..." past 5 days. She's bi polar. Like I see she wants to be back or not. When she is not, she puts a wall in front of her face. Last week I went to the court house to get legal advice on child custody. I showed it to here. She freaked out. I told her. You said you had no feelings? So I'm focusing on my daughter future. She still insist to live here but do our own thing. If we start dating other people she agree to move out. Her friend came maybe 3x more when she loved back in my home but her friend leaves when I'm home. I seriously don't know what to do. Her mom talk to me. She said she looks confused. This weekend we made a camping plan, a month ago. So my ex said let's use this 2.5 days without each other. I focus on myself at home *do my own thing* and she hangs with her family. Than come back without being angry/frustrated and talk mutual and civilized what's the next step. Her move out or we work things together. She said she wants to see my change but stay in this house and possibility to get back together. I see my therapist tomorrow. Like I said I been going every week for the past month 1/2. I told her come with me, but she refuse. In the past week. We sent pictures of our baby. We talk to her on the phone. When she moved out, I had my baby the 1st night and she comes up randomly and make a excuse to pick something up. I was supposed to watch my daughter 2 nights while she relax at her mom house. Offfcoursse baby went with mommy. I got super mad. Told her calm down these days without seeing each other, I can handle our baby in my home. Anyways. I dunno what to do. She still eating out with this girl. At least 3x ever since we broke up. During a week 1/2 process. Her friend was over last night. But left before I got home. She said it didn't take over night, she felt this for awhile to call it quits. Why move in to a home if you was over it? I confront her to say your mom guys wanted you out and move here and be unhappy with me. I have friends to hang out. I invite my friend over once a week or once every other week. Her friend comes over everyday. The same girl. Had a couple others but they have family and kids. Also her friend buy a lot of gifts for my daughter and help my ex around the house. And yes my ex now. Had a few ex girlfriends relationships in the past. Link to comment
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