lcvolley Posted May 30, 2017 Share Posted May 30, 2017 So my boyfriend just broke up with me two days after getting back from our first vacation. He is from Arkansas and I am from Texas, but we are both seniors at a college in Arkansas. He had a crush on me for months and was always too nervous to talk to me. Finally after 8 months of liking me and asking other people about me, he finally let it be known that he was into me. We dated for two months and I felt like I had found the love of my life. He was exactly what I was looking for. He brought up the future and said he wanted to come to Texas with me after we graduated. He told his best friend "if this girl isn’t the one, I don't know who is", and said many other things to me during our relationship about how I was perfect for him. He seemed to be just as crazy about me as I was about him. I am wanting to do at least two more years of graduate school in the medical field, and I have planned on doing that in Texas. I hadn't been concerned since he initiated a conversation about wanting to move down there with me. A day before our trip, he found out he got into a 3 year graduate program at our school. He knows I was planning on graduating in December and moving back to Texas afterwards. I was so happy for him, and then we went on our trip for a week and had a great time. On the trip, he mentioned feeling homesick for Arkansas, which was a little strange. Anyhow, after we returned from the trip, he texted me saying "its weird that we never discussed what getting into the program means for us" and almost as a joke I said, "you still want to see me right?" and he said he wasnt sure. Then suddenly, he said he wanted to break up with me because he didn't want to do a long distance relationship. I was so shocked. I told him we weren't in a long distance relationship and that we might never be and that we hadn't even discussed this at all! He just said "i know it'll end up being like that and I can't do it. I'm sorry but this is my decision." I asked "do you really really like me?" and he said "yes". I asked "if i was going to be a teacher, or something to where I could easily stay here in Arkansas, would you still want to continue to date me?" and again he said "yes." He just said he couldn't ask me to change my plans about Texas, and he couldn't do long distance and that was it. I asked him repeatedly if there was ANY other reason than the impending distance and he said "no". This came so out of the blue and we had never even talked about anything or even tried to find a solution with me. He doesn’t know that on our trip, I stayed awake one night and looked at medical school programs in Arkansas and would be willing to stay there to be with him during his program. It has been three days of no contact. Did he just freak out about school and feel overwhelmed by everything? Or feel freaked out about leaving Arkansas at some point? I am so confused and heartbroken. Please help! Link to comment
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