polarseltzer Posted May 22, 2017 Share Posted May 22, 2017 I wrote about the gentleman I have been seeing before. He is wonderful: incredibly successful, passionate about life and his hobbies, an intellectual (which is the most important trait for me, personally), and I am insanely attracted to him. For me, I find it easy to make a physical connection, but it's very rare for me to form an emotional connection. We see each other about once a week, which is great for me, because we both have very demanding careers, and active social lives. He texts or calls me every day. He tells me he enjoys spending time with me, that he loves that we have intellectual conversations, and that I'm beautiful. I've told him I like him, and he recognizes that that is not something I say often. We also recently slept together. This is the first time I've been intimate before having a discussion regarding exclusivity, but it felt right, and I'm not upset I did that. At this point, I'm incredibly happy with the progression, I just don't know if he sees this as something fun and casual, or whether he is, in due course, looking for a relationship. I'm not ready to have a "what is this talk", because a month is too soon for that for me, but I would like to know whether that is something he is open to in the future or if he's only looking for something casual. I don't know how to find that out without it seeming like I'm pressuring him to commit, but I also know for my own sanity that I can't have something casual with him. Yes, I know I should have figured this out before sleeping with him, but I didn't, and here I am. Is there anyway to ask what he's looking for without pressuring him or making it seem like I want a commitment at this very moment. Thank you as always for everyone's advice! Link to comment
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