Should I ask him out?

[lostNc0nfused]

I moved into a new apartment 3 weeks ago, and want to ask the security guard out.

 

During the rainy weather I walk my dogs around the inside of the building (a few people do). And while doing so I have had a few short chats with him. he is working, so they are usually only a few minutes. We talked about one of my interests, and in a later chat he asked how it was going. Usually we talk about dogs, mine or his, since I usually have mine with me and they are begging for his attention. Today we talked about his work, and some of the stories of stuff here where I live now.

 

I am not sure if it’s ok to ask him out. he is the security guard where I live, it is unprofessional or inappropriate? I assume he would never ask me for that reason, but could I ask him?

 

And I have no idea if he is just friendly or if he would be receptive to me asking him out? I have always done online dating, and have never asked a guy out in person. so I am clueless to gauge his interest. how do I tell if he would be receptive to me asking him out? or should I just go for it?

[Batya33]

I would not do so because he probably can't date tenants and even asking might put him in an awkward position.

[lostNc0nfused]

He doesn't technically work for the apartment complex. The apartment complex hired an outside company and contracts with them. Then the outside company provides a few security guards. This guy has been the guard at this apartment for about 4 years after spending a few years with his same company at another place. So I almost feel like that may be enough separation. But I do not know. However, I do agree with it being a potential issue. thats why I haven't asked yet. I don't want to put him in that position. he seems like such a nice guy.

 

 

I would not do so because he probably can't date tenants and even asking might put him in an awkward position.

[Batya33]

I don't think it matters if it's through a company.

[melancholy123]

Do you know if he's married or has a girlfriend?

[lostNc0nfused]

I don't think it matters if it's through a company.

 

Like it doesn't matter so go ahead and ask him out. or it doesn't matter how is employed its still wrong?

[Batya33]

Like it doesn't matter so go ahead and ask him out. or it doesn't matter how is employed its still wrong?

 

If he works in your building for security I don't think it matters if he works through a company or the building - he's probably not allowed to date the tenants. The good thing is, since he does work for a company maybe he'll get reassigned and then you can date him.

[Dahl]

Could you perhaps invite him out in a platonic setting and get to know him better in a more relaxed environment to begin? Maybe getting together at a nearby dog park, for instance? That way you might be able to learn more about his situation professionally and personally before you take the plunge to invite him on a date.

 

Good luck!

[lostNc0nfused]

Do you know if he's married or has a girlfriend?

 

 

 

I know he has a male roommate who he has known for a while. so I assume no wife. as for girlfriend, I am not entirely sure. But the mention of it hasn't come up at all. so it doesn't seem like it. but I could be wrong.

[Wiseman2]

No need for the potential mess. He wants a tip for Christmas for doing his job well, which includes being cordial and friendly to residents, not a date.

 

Both 0nfused;6821290] it is unprofessional or inappropriate?