Abby0602 Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 All was fine in my relationship until a few month ago. While trying to change some settings a WhatsApp appeared on my boyfriends phone saying "me too" with heart eyes. It turns out in this conversation he was telling a previous sexual (relatively recent) partner who I didn't even know he was in contact with that he thinks about when they slept together all the time, and wishes they could do it again or could have been together. I confronted him about this and decided I could deal with it but asked if there was anything else he needed to tell me, to which he responded "no". A month later when trying to attach a photo to an email on his laptop I came across a folder full of nudes that have been sent to him (pictures and videos) of girls separated into 20 named folders. Some were before from when we were together, but several sets of pictures and videos were from since we have been together( they are dated) from girls he knows and has been in contact with telling me they're just friends. I stupidly decided to forgive this also. However now he continues to hide it from me when he speaks to girls regardless of whether it is innocent or not. Is it okay to sit and ask him if he wouldn't mind stopping speaking to all these girls, apart from the ones he genuinely believes are his friends (i.e. He would go out for coffee with them and there's nothing sexual attraction or flirting ect) and any girls that don't fit this to be ignored? Or is that too controlling even given the past. ( to be clear I don't want him to not speak to any girls at all) Link to comment
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