Thinking about her all the time

[Opportunity9]

Girl I've been seeing for few months now, I'm 27 and so is she.

 

I was cautious about meeting a new girl after my last 4 year relationship. But she's first girl I've been seeing since and all I do past few weeks is think about her 24/7. Surely this isn't healthy and I don't know how to kick it.

This is first girl I've ever even joined a forum to ask questions about as she's got some mystery and I can't often work her out.

 

I'm constantly anxious and thinking if she's bored of me or really likes me or wants or doesn't want a relationship down the line, is she using me until she finds someone new, or is she really into me.

I actually for the first time in my life, feel weirdly obsessive.

I want to take a step back but I can't.

 

She always makes points of taking things slow, we do have sex but she's always in refusal to commit. Ie. Let me meet her friends or family. She's met mine.

 

I always ask myself if I should walk away for the better but I'm in a position I actually can't.

[Giblesp]

You don't have to walk away, but it would be a good time to touch base with yourself.

 

She's suggesting the emotional pace, you can still take an emotional step back and be with her. Just have fun with it and let her come to you. Your main focus should be your own work, including self work.

 

Sounds like you have some fear of losing her, try and work on letting that fear go.

[Sportster2005]

Girl I've been seeing for few months now, I'm 27 and so is she.

 

I was cautious about meeting a new girl after my last 4 year relationship. But she's first girl I've been seeing since and all I do past few weeks is think about her 24/7. Surely this isn't healthy and I don't know how to kick it.

This is first girl I've ever even joined a forum to ask questions about as she's got some mystery and I can't often work her out.

 

I'm constantly anxious and thinking if she's bored of me or really likes me or wants or doesn't want a relationship down the line, is she using me until she finds someone new, or is she really into me.

I actually for the first time in my life, feel weirdly obsessive.

I want to take a step back but I can't.

 

She always makes points of taking things slow, we do have sex but she's always in refusal to commit. Ie. Let me meet her friends or family. She's met mine.

 

I always ask myself if I should walk away for the better but I'm in a position I actually can't.

 

Being constantly anxious isn't a good thing. Address why you are anxious. Do you just feel insecure about her? or just generally insecure? Constant anxiety is very unhealthy.

[Careerchoice]

I'm constantly anxious and thinking if she's bored of me or really likes me or wants or doesn't want a relationship down the line, is she using me until she finds someone new, or is she really into me.

 

You're right to worry about these issues. If she saw a future with you, she would want to be with you immediately. She wouldn't be putting it off. If you feel like you are too wrapped up in her, but can't let go, there's nothing we can do. We can't stand up for you. You have to do it on your own.

 

Also, if you aren't together, but you can't bring yourself to date other women, the balance in this thing is off. It'll end badly for you.

[tattoobunnie]

You are anxious because she's not giving herself over so easily. She is making your work for it. Either way, you're not a dog. If you want a relationship that grows into a partnership, then ditch her. You don't need to be walking on egg shells. Just because sex may be amazing, doesn't mean she's right for you.