laser132217 Posted May 16, 2017 Share Posted May 16, 2017 Five years into a loving loyal relationship, me girlfriend and I hit a rough patch. At 23, she started a business and has been very successful... appearances on TV, speaking at big events etc. She freely admitted that this had changed her. The sensitive vulnerable girl that I used to know had been replaced by someone consumed by their own success, obsessed with 'the business scene' and unsatisfied with her sub-urban life. I never held her back for fear of pushing her away. In our five year relationship, I can honestly say I never once said or did anything that I regret or am ashamed of. These words pain me to say now, but I'm always 'the nice guy' - trusty, dependable, reliable. So we took a break for 10 days. It was awful. I felt completely powerless, I knew the girl I loved was still there but she was changing. I spent days utterly distraught, staying with my parents, waiting for a text from her. I gave her room to figure out what she wanted and after about a week apart, she said that she wanted to make a go of things. She wanted to at least try. I returned home and we had the most amazing week together...making plans, spending all day in bed, cooking together. It felt like we were dating again. A week into being home, we took a trip to a different city, just me and her. We partied all night in clubs and were both very very drunk but having a wonderful time. At one point we got separated. I looked for her for about half an hour and eventually found her on the dancefloor...in the arms of another man. After confronting her, she admitted to having kissed him. 'I don't know what I was thinking', 'I must be having a quarter-life crisis', 'I was just so drunk', she said. She apologised and initially expressed regret. I was in so much pain, I couldn't understand how she could do that to mean at a time when we were getting things back together. A big part of me was still happy to have her back after our break and so I decided that if she was truly sorry we could move past it...put it down as a mistake. Two weeks past and we were starting to get back to normal. I thought we could get through this and things may, just may, be alright. I hadn't told anyone about her cheating - I told myself it was just a mistake and no one needed to know. Then on Saturday, we were both on a night out with separate groups of friends. At about 1am, I broke off from my group, knowing she was at a bar nearby to go and see her. As I approached it, I saw her in the street with a business friend, kissing passionately. I confronted her again, furious, and told her it was over. The next day I moved out and am again living with my parents. We spoke before I left. I didn't say anything nasty but just expressed how incredibly hurt I was. I asked for the truth and she said that two days into our break she'd kissed the same bloke I caught her with last night, thinking that we were breaking up. Disgusting. Last night she went back to his and 'slept on his sofa'. The last 48 hours have been excruciating. The hardest of my life. I've not contacted her, ignoring her attempts, but I'm devastated. I've told my closest friends who have been very supporting and my family as ever are hear for me. But I keep asking myself...how could someone who loved and cared for you for so many years, do something so terrible to you. I don't understand and perhaps never will. I don't know what to expect to get from writing this but felt I needed to. Any comments are welcomed. Link to comment
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