Bmagos4 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Me and my boyfriend were together for 3 years. I thought we had the most loving and close relationship we saw eachother everyday and talked everyday I spent the night at his house all the time and we had so many inside jokes and we're truly best friends. It was great. We had a lot of drama in the beginning just because we had to get to know eachother while being together and that caused a lot of friction but we overcame that and it got to a point to where we could look at eachother and really know who we were and I felt I truly knew a part of him nobody else did. He was from the island Guam and I even went there to meet his family and learn about his life. Because of that experience I really thought I got a piece of him nobody else in the states would see. About a month ago he approached me with the thought that it felt things were different with us and that maybe we should focus on being apart for now, I graduated from college a year ago and was searching for career type jobs and he was about to graduate and in his last semester, he stated he just wanted some space and so with that I agreed because he told me he still loves me and cares for me but we should be on our own for the time being. It was hard to grasp but I took it and we still stood in normal contact with another after that. We would spend the night at eachother house and even still kiss and have sex. It was tough for me because I wanted a relationship. Eventually I saw on Instagram that he liked a photo and clicked on it and found it was a picture of him with another girl at a sorority formal. I immediately clicked on her page and saw all these photos of them two together. My heart was broken. There was a picture of him holding her at Tahoe and I remembered he told me he was going to Tahoe with him family but he really went with her. There was a picture of him at Vegas with her when he told me he was going to Vegas with his roommates. I confronted him and told him to come over and he at first avoiding going that but I forced him to. He came over and just apologized and said he didn't know why he did it it just happened. He made it seem like it was a one time thing and so maybe in time with a lot of effort we could work through this. I was willing. He said he wanted that too but still wanted to not be together at the moment. Knowing this killed me so much I felt like I was going crazy with comparing her to me and wondering how she was better than me in every way. It led me to reach out to her. I messaged her on Facebook because I truly thought she knew about me but was the type of girl who just didn't care and wanted what she wanted. Turns out she didn't know about me either and he led her to believe I hadn't been in the picture for a long time! She asked me to provide proof of me and him being together during when they were together and I did and she was shocked. Both of us answered a lot of questions for one another and she was mad and felt disrespected. She was actually nice to me and for a second I felt bad for her because she was innocent in this. She told me she wasn't talking to him and didn't wanna be with him but that I should talk to him and see what he wants. She asked me if I still want him and I told her yes even after all this drama I felt we had a bond and our time together was worth trying to save. I asked her if she wanted him and she said no but she also just needs time to process everything. I made it clear to her that the entire time they were in a relationship, me and him were consistently together and he basically led two relationships and acted like either of us didn't exist. He also led me to believe after we broke up and even after I found out about her that he still loved me still needed me still wanted me in his life which gave me hope. She gave me more information on how often they would see eachother, that they have had sex together and that they tell eachother they love eachother. All this and more just continued to break my heart. He found out that me and her were in contact and blocked me off all social media, and my phone number was blocked too so I couldn't even reach out to him. We ended up agreeing to meet up and talk and he just yelled the whole time and stated he didn't want me anymore he doesn't love me and he loves her and wants to save their relationship and now ours. He finally admitted that he cheated on met a girl and it was going great and lost feelings for me, he said he doesn't feel the same about me anymore and wants to be with her. He picked her over me. He's not sure she'll take him back after finding out all that I told her but apart of me feels like she will take him back and they will be together. It's not fair I did everything right and treated him so good and he cheats on me and the worst part is that he gets to go on and be happy with her and I have to suffer through this alone. I want him to see how big of a mistake he made but he will never see that as long as she's around he has to be alone to realize that. It's so hurtful that he doesn't even wanna try and save ours he's just so ready to move on from me. I don't know what to do. He says he'll check up on me from time to time and will unblock me from stuff when he's ready but that's not what I want I want him to see in time he wants me back but it's like he completely changed into a different person and has this new life now and new girl. Me and him would talk about our future together and even went so far as to look up on Google specifics on where we wanted to live and now he's telling me he wants all that with her. It's broken me apart and I've never felt more depressed in my life. I've contemplated suicide because I have no idea how to live on through these feelings. He was such a big part of my life I thought I was in his too and now so fast it's just gone and I have to live like he never existed. Makes me feel like I wasted his time. How could she want to be with him after knowing what he's done to me? He started out their relationship on a big life and told her he was single when he wasn't and how could she want to carry on with that? How could he wanna be with her knowing he cheated on me with her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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