Guilt tripping old friends into hanging out with me again?

[Michael832]

I haven't hung out or talked with any of my high school friends since I started college, and now I'm out of college. There was some tensions and I really didn't have much free time during college anyway. Now I've been out a few months and working full time, and on my weekends I just sit home by myself which was ok at first, but now I'm sick out of my mind. I actually hate having weekends off because at work I actually have people to talk to, but I'm not allowed to work weekends for overtime until I'm done my first year on the job.

 

I'm really bad at meeting new people outside of school or work. Anyway, a decent group of my high school friends actually still hang out, and what's funny is they became friends with my younger brother who's in the army and talks with a few of them daily. I was thinking about telling my brother to tell them that I sit home by myself and don't do anything on weekends, and hopefully someone will invite me somewhere and get the ball rolling again. They're nice kids so it would probably work, but would this be an awkward encounter?

[j.man]

There was some tensions

 

What does this mean?

 

In any case, why not just reach out to him or one of your friends with how it'd be cool to hang out again and asking when the next shindig is? Don't be all Eyore about it.

[Michael832]

What does this mean?

 

There were a couple guys who I stopped getting along with and couldn't deal with anymore, then basically people started picking sides in the whole beaf which made it worse. One of those guys is in drug rehab now, and the other one hangs with another group now.

[melancholy123]

You really dont want a pity invitation do you? That makes you sound pathetic. Call your old school mates and suggest getting together one night.

[Hollyj]

I think it would look obvious and make you seem pathetic. Why don't you reach out on your own?

 

What about friends from college? I think it's time you pushed yourself and got out there. Do volunteering, join Meetups. Etc.

[Michael832]

I guess I can message the one kid who's kind of the good kid of the group, and just mention that I regret falling out of contact and next time they're all hanging out I would like to tag along

[Michael832]

What about friends from college? I think it's time you pushed yourself and got out there. Do volunteering, join Meetups. Etc.

 

It's funny because most the kids I became friends with in college weren't the local kids. We do meet up, we met up maybe once since graduation, but everyone's like at least 45 minutes away. The kids I was friends with in high school hang around other people as well now, so I was hoping that would be a nice way to get some exposure.

[Batya33]

I would find fun volunteer activities or a sport to do on the weekend, or cooking lessons or whatever. Certainly call and ask if the person wants to get together but this is a sign that it's time for you to branch out and meet new people.

[indea08]

Don't say "hey, when are you guys hanging out next, I'd like to come along."

 

Say "hey I'm free this weekend. Wanna grab a couple people and have a bonfire?(or whatever activity y'all do in your town) Take control of your life and make plans.