RandomPerson57 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Lets start with my family, i am the third of a 4 sibling living with both of my parents. On a daily basis, most of us usually talk to our mother instead of our father because of his usually cold attitude. And most of us never have a heart to heart discussion about something because neither my parents or my sibling want to have that emotional distress/awkwardness. And the irony is that all of us seem to have problems that we want to talk about, which in the end only cause even more stress. The only time that my father talks to me or my siblings is either when he needs something (usually computer related because he doesnt understand it) or when a hot topic is arising ( for example the pokemon go craze or when there is a new "study" about gaming addiction or etc, i am a highschool student after all), and by talking, i mean he will berate me or my siblings on it as if it was the gospel even though all of us already knew about it. He will explain that this thing will destroy our lives, that he saw it with his own eyes and etc.. This also happens with my mother although not so often. Now, people say if you are uncomfortable about somethign you should talk about it right? Well it's a bit difficult since my father is really thickheaded. I respect him with all of my might but every single time i try to correct him in anything, he will go berserk and say that im just a child that is naivete, doesnt know anything, and should just always listen to anything he says even though that his statement is very wrong and misleading. the source of where he gets the information every single time is always from his friends in whats app, and he never double checks it. So everything that he received is instantly recorded in his mind. Another reason why my father is so thickheaded is because of his ego. He is the owner of a successful ceramic distributor, he is a civil engineer, and he knows a lot of people. And everytime anyone meets him, they always praise him on how wise, nice, and successful he is. But all of us except my father knew that all of them only praise him to get on his good side, and my father is a real sucker to praise and attention. So everytime me, my siblings or my mother "disrepects" him by correcting him, or not agreeing to anything he says or giving attention to something else he will start to get angry (he doesnt care if its in the public) and say how we are inferior to him in every single way or form and how we should respect him like everyone else. This has happen to me and my siblings ever since we were little and this will continue until we sever our ties with him. The worst thing is when if my mother 'disrepects' him. He will start to call her 'only a woman' and how as his wife she should respects him the most. He will continue saying that her education is useless and she is lower than him(my mother has a master in law and a notary while he has a bachelor in civil engineering). Even if my mother starts crying, he will continue until he is satisfied. Now, on his defense, he doesnt physically abuse any of us at all, but this has gone too far for anyone in my family. So i want to ask anyone, how do i stop him from hurting this family? Link to comment
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