Anonykm Posted May 18, 2017 Author Share Posted May 18, 2017 When you actually have kids, you would know you can't just drop them like a ton a bricks because their spouse feels "lonely". Sorry, it doesn't work like that. It takes two to tangle, and two to get in and out of messes. We do not know if the husband is being supportive, and being a hands-on father, or helping around the house. We also do not know if the OP has a strong network of friends and family in the area that can help support said, "getting busy" time. My husband gets that he's not the first priority, and to not take it personally. But he helps me with chores and the kids, because he knows if he wants alone time, he needs to pitch in to make it happen. And, a 20 month old can't just sit around and fend for themselves. And you also can't leave them around soiled because hubby feels "lonely". We also don't know if the husband never tries to initiate or has, but always in times after she's exhausted herself with running around the kiddo all day. Thank you I think you made some very good points here. My husband is supportive and I am super greatful for that. I just feel he has a lack of understanding about how things have changed in my life. I do not have much baby sitting support but I can make do with what help I do have. I seem to be getting painted with the bad brush here. Just because I am giving my child 100% of me doesn't mean I am spoiling her. I am doing my best to raise a happy healthy child, and like you said a toddler can't fend for themselves therefore most of my time and energy is put into looking after her. Thanks for your support tattoobunny I appreciate it. Link to comment
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