soulman00 Posted May 12, 2017 Share Posted May 12, 2017 Hello. First time I have turned to an online forum for advice on relationships. Shows how desperate I am? Its driving me nuts! I am 32 years old and enjoy a very platonic relationship with a girl. Known her for almost 4 years but deeply only for 2. We are very close and talk everyday. Little details too. She recently travelled out of town for about a week to attend a cousin's wedding. I knew she would be busy and that we probably wouldn't message each other for a few days or very intermittently at best. I was okay with that but then it turned out she didn't message me for 5 days straight. She now tells me that she was waaaaaaaaay too busy and didn't even get time to herself. That's understandable too I guess. The day she returned I gave her a quick call to see if she was okay. Our little town had been hit with floods and the roads getting home were a tad bit dangerous to drive on. I was stuck for two hours before I called her. I eventually reached home after 3 and a half hours when on a normal day it would take me only 20minutes. I was a bit surprised that she didn't message to ask if I had even reached home or decided to stick it up elsewhere for the night. The next day she was off from work and just took that time to rest it out. Again, not a single word from her. This is opposed to the constant messaging we normally do. I was deeply upset with this behavior because that is quite unlike us. The day after that I decided to speak to her about it. She was quite normal and thought her behavior with me was normal too. I asked her why she didn't send me a single message. Just a simple hello and chat for a few minutes. She said she was just tired from her trip and recuperating. And I asked her, she couldn't take out 5 minutes to talk to me? She said no and didn't see anything wrong with that. I was shocked. This is someone who shares the most minute details with me. Now it was like I was a stranger. 2 days later and she still maintains the same. We are not on talking terms at the moment. Very small detail to fight over but I can't fathom the fact it was something very minor to her - not talking to me for over a week. I feel her friendship comes with conditions now? That she will blank me when she wants to? Do friends really do that? If we were casual friends, that's understandable but here we are too close. Am I wrong? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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