Vossen1876 Posted May 10, 2017 Share Posted May 10, 2017 I'm in a wonderful relationship with a fantastic girl who makes me very happy, I've never had so much fun in a relationship and i feel like we're on the same wave length in many ways. But recently a few issues (my insecurities) have reared there head occasionally, I suffer with depression and I can be prone to low moods/feeling like I'm not good enough. I'm 28 and she's 24, my longest relationship is 4 years (ended because my ex cheated on me with her boss), her's is now me (4 months). Obviously, you get talking about the past and she mentioned she'd had a few boyfriends but nothing long term and also that she didn't loose her virginity until she was 20 as well. So my shock came, when I was at her house with 4 of her other girl flatmates/friends and they were talking about sex/dating and one of her friends said "you're only supposed to tell the guy you're seeing you've been with around 8 people" to which my girlfriend replied "eight!". I felt really sick and quite hurt, I was actually quite enjoying not knowing about her past and her "number", I've explained since how I felt and she has excepted it and apologised. Her number is 16 and mine is 9, I'm trying to see it as a good thing that she's been with a lot of people and I'm the first person she's properly fallen in love with. At the same time, I'm worried she has a lot of people to compare me to and on top of that the thought she's been with a lot of people does bother me a bit. She works in a pub and even a guy who walks in and I've met a few times, even they slept together which again quite upset me as he was very good looking. "It was nothing Matt seriously, I was at the bus stop drunk and he approached and I invited him back to mine. It was just drunk sex, it wasn't even that good". Still didn't really make me feel much better. She's also explained to me she's felt a bit like Chuck in the movie "Good Luck Chuck", someone who isn't good at relationships and usually is used as a stepping stone. She lost belief that relationships were for her and i've gone a long way to restoring her faith in men, I just don't want to ruin anything because I can't get over her past. Link to comment
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