Its been 5 months

[Brokenheartedm]

So a buddy of mine told me my ex didnt go to a party cause she would see me there, i was not even in town time of party but she felt shed see me at this party. Its been 5 months and 3 months nc and she still cant be in same room with me which tells me she still cares about it all am i wrong? The funny thing is she cant go to a party but she can join my fire department where i am aswell so i have a feeling liquor in her system with me being there would go to sex cause that is what happened a week after we broke up at the same persons party, i feel if she still didnt feel for me she would have went with me there or not, she joined my fire dep a month after our break up, she also went to a few friends to check up on me and wanted to tell me about our cat which is really her but she calls it half mine. Um why 5 months down the road she is still doig this i can see maybe her not going if i was trying to talk to her but she went to my friend telling him i treated her non existent when i saw her at the department? I still have her blocked and have no intentions in unblocking her, AND SHE STILL cant be at the same party as me? Lmao 5 months and this is what i am still dealing with

[tattoobunnie]

Or she didn't want to be rude, cuz she didn't want to rub her new beau in your face.

[shessofly]

If you're both nc and both ignoring each other perhaps it would just be awkward for her. Also, if you have anger and jealousy issues perhaps being in an environment where alcohol could be involved may be thought of as too risky. You might ask your friends to stop sharing information with you. What does it accomplish? Lots of exes do strange things after breakups. Lots of dumpees analyze the behavior and turn them into 'signs' or imagine up some kind of scenario of what it means. You will likely never know why she does what she does. Best not to overthink it.

[Wiseman2]

That's a lot of speculation about the party. At any rate, deal with the work situation, assume she wants to be perceived as a 'nice' person being new at the place.

[thealchemist]

I can think of a lot of reasons why someone wouldn't want to be at a party with their ex. Still having feelings isn't one of the top reasons for me. Your "friends" informing you of pointless information to get you riled up isn't useful though. I would not worry about anything she does. Speculation leads down a bad path.

[Brokenheartedm]

Ya idk guys ik she was reaching out to my friend about cat and i hear she is worried about what i am doing and such i can see her not wanting to go but i almost forgot about her and she is still acting as if we broke up weeks ago?

[thealchemist]

It sounds like you are having problems letting go. It is normal to be that way. I think the best thing to do is to stop getting information on her. Stop paying attention to her actions. She might have issues letting go too. Best thing to do is not reciprocate with each other, or you guys might just get stuck in limbo.

[Brokenheartedm]

See thats the thing i dont even ask i just hear shes more worried about me than herself 2 friends told me she checked up on me she joined the fire dep after break up and saying girl fireman are gross! She wanted to tell me about "our" cat like idc im just trying figure out months later she still talks about me

[Wiseman2]

You are still talking about her too.

im just trying figure out months later she still talks about me