Kaykayxo Posted May 9, 2017 Share Posted May 9, 2017 A couple of days ago my now ex and I got in a spat over something small. I hate fighting and said something along the lines of us not adding value to eachothers lives (when this goes on) and he took it very personal. He sent a chain of messages than said he was done and we could be friends. Instantly I was being desperate, begging him to see I did not mean it in a hurtful way (even though my words were sharp.). He ignored me for 24 hours, then messaged saying he felt I didn't appreciate his efforts and the comments I made confirmed it. He said he wanted to be platonic, genuine friends. He said he loved me and didn't want to be mean, however I again became pleading. Hours before this fight we were fine, he was sending me much love and our relationship has been stronger the past couple months than all 3 years we were together. I know I triggered it but how did he spin so fast? How can he throw away our whole relationship like that? I am hurting beyond belief. Can't eat or sleep properly, my whole life is just dismal. I have very negative feelings regarding men already. My father was never in my life and tbh I could never imagine being in a romantic relationship with anyone other than him, never even though about other men. I am in fear that this situation will only make my distrust for all men worst as I feel he abandoned us. He was truly my best friend and he cut that off. I apoligized for spazzing out and he said hopefully we can be cool and perhaps talk next week.... I am just shattered. I would have never done this to him, ever. I would have never hurt him. I know people may see this wasn't a heat of the moment split and he was probably thinking about it beforehand, but I contest. I know him very well. He speaks up and he wouldn't have been with me if that was the case. He has asked me for space many times before if I overwhelm or hurt him.I truly think it was my words that sent him to do this. Men how can you just turn off your emotions? How did he go from loving me as a gf to loving me as a "close friend" in 24 hours? He said he is not and doesn't want to be with someone else and I do believe him, but yet he is being so cold and turned his back on me. I don't think I did anything to deserve this. I want to win him back and I want him to miss me but I know I must stop contacting him. For years we have never gone a day without talking so this is breaking me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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