Finding a respectful balance

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I've been in a relationship for 1 year and five months, One of the reasons I liked him was because he was willing to cook, clean and do household work but now he doesn't do anything and might cook occasionally, He recently called me lazy because I didn't do the dishes.. I work fulltime in Admin and he works as a FIFO worker with a 8/6 roster. The week he is in town I would like a little help, When I ask him to show some effort he says that he spends money on me and provides a house for me to live in..he's not the type to negotiate its his way or the highway. I'm not sure how to let him know that I don't want to be just a housewife and that I want equal responsibilities without him getting upset. He also has a dog that I look after while he is away and even when he is in town he expects me to feed the dog. He is very bossy and demands that I do things for him. He is also very controlling and questions my phone usage and gets jealous very easily. He never says anything sweet to me anymore and when I question it he says that he spends a lot of money on me and that shows how much he cares but I don't see it that way. I'm not sure how to talk to this guy about it in a way that he actually listens to me, Any suggestions?

[Wiseman2]

When he's home for the week, don't bring up problems right away. Allow a 'reentry zone'. Try to rebuild romance first. That opens ears better than "I need you to..."

 

As far as controlling, that's not good your phone usage should not be monitored. Don't allow that. Also don't "take orders" from anyone. What is he demanding you do for him other than look after the dog?

 

As far as communicating, you want talking and helping and he shows it materially. Communicate romance while he's away, flirt.

 

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I work fulltime in Admin and he works as a FIFO worker with a 8/6 roster. he says that he spends money on me and provides a house for me to live in.