TrustZer0 Posted May 8, 2017 Share Posted May 8, 2017 Greetings - This is my first thread on this forum about a topic like this, i hope i am doing it right here we go: about me: i am 22 years old now (male) and tripped into my first relationship. to be honest, i dont even know if this one counts, because something feels weird to me, and here is why: so i met this girl (20) at my workplace. i work as a vendor in a small service-store all about electronics. She had a problem with her smartphone i was familiar with, so i helped her out, and all of a sudden, she asked for my phone number. At first i thought she was about to friendzone me and ask me about every little thing via call and messaging whenever she had a similar problem Well, to be honest, she was good looking and a nice person to speak, also i didnt ment to miss such a great opportunity, because you rarely see girls asking men for their numbers, so i thought this might develop into something special - of course i couldnt resist and wrote it down. Later that day, she started texting me, she was thankful to my help and wanted to meet me someday, i agreed of course and we got into our first date. Since she was on a diet, we went for a simple walk through the forest. to me, it was kind of romantic, we talked about each other, our relations, families, exes, likes, dislikes etc. We got along fairly well, except i was a little bit shy because usually i rarely speak to women at all - ultimately it was a quiet good first date to me and i got a kiss on my cheek as a reward. Many thoughts have passed through me that evening, but luckily we continued texting after the date. we started using sweet smileys, being polite with phrases like "good morning/night" as well as "honey" etc. i had a good feeling about this and it felt like a real relationship. We kept texting daily from now on. The second date occured about one week later, somehow we started texting about her lifestyle - not only she lost a great amount of weight through her diet but also she walked a lot in her sparetime.i told her i usually walk as well because i simply like it - so she asked me if id like to meet her for another "walk". i agreed again and this time she picked me up because i told her i know a special place near my house for walking. everything went smooth again, but this time after the walk was over, we took a seat in her car and kept talking for an hour. and here i did my first mistake: i guess this time she expected a real kiss, but i turned my head again and...well me...it became awkward and i left her car in shame... i still regret that move... nonetheless we kept texting like before and our conversations went even...deeper...She began talking dirty, sending me selfies inside her bed etc. Everything going smooth so far, at least i thought so. I tried to pick up a third date and improve on my flaws from the last two dates, but she refused to meet me a third time. Either she was going out at night WITHOUT ME, or she had really bad excuses like i have no time right now, or i am with my family today etc. At this rate, to me it feels like she loves me somehow, but she is afraid of developing our relationship - that bothered me... Well, two weeks have passed since the second date, and to me, it was about time meeting her again. I had a plan: I knew her working hours so far, she was working from 2 pm to 10 pm. so i bought her some flowers that day, went to her house with my car, parked right in front of her door and waited until she arrived from work. After 10-15 minutes, she arrived and couldnt believe her eyes. She asked me: "Hello? What are you doing here at a time like this? And what are those flowers?" told her: "I missed you a lot. it has been two weeks now and i couldnt resist but meeting you today, even if it have to be 5 minutes, i am gonna enjoying it..." It really felt like i hit her heart really hard this time also, it happened to be a real kiss this time. but she told me she was sleepy, she promissed me we could meet tomorrow instead of now - i agreed, because i felt like i accomplished my mission already, so i went home after that and she sent me dozen of text messages that my move was really romantic and she thanked me a lot for meeting me, she was glad she met me that day etc...girly things... Well, too good to be true, right? Because she canceled our third date, and the reason for that was even more hilarious: she wanted to meet her ex. yeah, me again. how i know? she wrote me... at least she is being honest, right? right...but why is she meeting her ex? am i need to be worried in this situation? i didnt ask her why... i was just pissed off a bit, but i knew relationships are based on confidence, so i trusted her for now, she thanked me for being understanding...lol... now here comes the twisted part: again a week has passed since then. She is still flirting with me via messaging, but i cant get a third date for sake... the problem is, i already developed feelings for her, and i guess she knows that as well, but...i dont know what to do right now... its like a hidden barrier between us and i dont know how to get through... also, i am worrying about her ex, maybe she wants to be with him? i dont want to rush things now, because if i start to complain now after 3-4 weeks, maybe she doubts my trust... i could really need help now. Link to comment
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