Iceberg900 Posted May 7, 2017 Share Posted May 7, 2017 My ex girlfriend broke up with me just over 2 months ago and within 1 week she was living with a new guy and was in a relationship with him. They had been texting each other and flirting for 2-3 weeks before she broke up with me. It hit me out of nowhere and everything in our relationship was fine up until the flirting happened - we were getting a bit distant because of the long hours we were both doing, but had been together for 2.5 beautiful years and were as strong as ever (Or so I thought). I still love her but have given up trying to get her back because I realised I was just holding myself back. She has been extremely friendly and nice to me in the last 2 weeks through texting and we have even met up so that I could sell her a new phone (I'm a mobile phone salesperson). This meeting made me feel terrible because we acted like we always had: laughing, joking, making inside jokes that we always used to and she even touched me on the arm a couple of times. I gave her my last hand-written letter that day that basically said it was so good seeing her, but I couldn't be her friend anymore because I will always want so much more. I told her that I wanted to be there to tell her how beautiful she was and pick her up when she has had a bad day but I couldn't because I would be emotionally supporting her for the new guy and it still hurts me. She was quite upset by this and said she wanted us to be friends so badly and that she will always miss me and hopes that I will reach out to her. I left the door open in the letter, and said that if she is single and lonely in the future I would love to take her on a date and start from scratch. She replied later that evening by text and said the letter made her cry (I put some photos of us in the envelope) and said that "Maybe things will be different in the future". She has texted me randomly out of the blue TWICE this week. The first time was to thank me for the new phone and basically commenting on how the screen protector was put on really well. I didn't continue the conversation and just stopped texting her after 1-2 messages. She texted me again this morning (3 days later) and said: "I really like the colour of the new phone but its so easy to get fingerprints / smudges on the back of it! ". I still have very strong feelings for her and would start our relationship from scratch tomorrow by taking her out to dinner if she asked but I am also committed to moving on and told myself after the letter there would be no more contact. I need advice on what steps to take next, assuming that I am still hoping for reconciliation somewhere down the road. 1. Should I Ignore the message completely and see how many times in the next few weeks she tries to contact me again? She is obviously thinking about me or just bored because her new Rebound is not there. The messages have been completely unnecessary. 2. Should I reply but keep the message really short (like 1-2 words?) and leave it at that. 3. Should I reply and tell her that I don't want her contacting me anymore unless she wants to try our relationship again. What should I do? Sorry for the long post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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