She called me honey during sex..I'm her baby, not honey

[AKH2020]

Ok this may sound like not that big of a deal but wanted some feedback. So I've been dating this woman seriously for about 5-6 months. Before that, casually for about a year and a half. During the casual time we both were seeing others. Since I met her we've always called each other babe or baby especially during sex. Back when things were casual, one night she called me honey a lot during sex. It kinda pissed me off cuz I knew that I wasn't "honey" and she was probably accidentally calling me what she called someone else at the time. I never mentioned it. Why would I? We both had agreed at the time that things were casual...fast forward about 4 months, we decided to seriously commit to each other. Fast forward another 5 months, she called me honey during sex last week...keep in mind, she NEVER calls me honey at any time. It's always babe or baby. I'm kinda concerned and thought I could just blow it off but I'm not letting it go. So the question is, is she still got this guy from last summer on the side? How should I approach this? Thanks for any feedback on this

[LaHermes]

Just to enquire AKH. I assume you both have first names?

 

That said, calling someone "honey" is so common that I can't imagine why you'd attach any importance to it.

[Wiseman2]

Perhaps honey is an upgrade from babe now that you are in a more committed relationship. Babe sounds more casual. It seems she's trying to signal that she thinks of you as more of a couple now rather than casual hookups where babe is more popular.

Back when things were casual, one night she called me honey a lot during sex. It kinda pissed me off cuz I knew that I wasn't "honey" and she was probably accidentally calling me what she called someone else at the time. she called me honey during sex last week.

[melancholy123]

I cant believe this bothers you! You should be happy she calls you anything endearing!

[Wiseman2]

Agree. Twinkle toes or muffin or sugar lips sounds much worse than honey, no?

I cant believe this bothers you!

[LaHermes]

Never mind.....Jim/Bill/Clint when none of these is your name!!

[Mavrik]

When in the throws of passion people say all types of things.

 

I think your reading too much into

It

[thealchemist]

I've been called much worse. I think you are overreacting a lot. It is a pet name. If she starts throwing in proper nouns that aren't yours then worry.

[ThatwasThen]

I'm thinking along the same lines as Hermes...

 

Perhaps she once called you "babe" or "baby" because it would avoid calling you someone else's name during the heat of the moment. I feel sad for you that you don't trust her. You're relationship is doomed if you can't get past that. Not trusting someone will eventually wear away your emotional connection.

[mustlovedogs]

Honey, babe, baby... all generic.

 

So don't read in to it.

[Hollyj]

I cant believe this bothers you! You should be happy she calls you anything endearing!

 

I can't believe this thread. If this is the worst of your problems, then I think you are doing well. Do you tend to overthink/overreact with situations?

 

If she calls you someone else's name, then I would be concerned.

[Hollyj]

Agree. Twinkle toes or muffin or sugar lips sounds much worse than honey, no?

 

I like "sugar lips."

[LaHermes]

I'm not very inventive. I call him "god" as in O.M.G. (repeatedly)

[nsolo]

"she called me honey during sex last week...keep in mind, she NEVER calls me honey at any time"

 

If I was trying to fish around, I might say: "I like how now I'm your babe and your honey," and then I'd wait to see what she says and how she reacts.

 

Either way, though, if you don't trust her, that's an issue that you must work on within yourself, because if you tell her that you don't trust her, that'll probably open an ugly can of worms. This being an issue to you tells me that some insecurities are leaking into your consciousness from somewhere within you. Keep this in mind going forward. Why don't you think you're her man who she's crazy about? If she's truly into you, she sure as hell ain't messin' around with another man and accidentally calling you a name that's supposed to be for him.

[limichelle]

Maybe she was thinking about Winnie the Pooh?

 

Seriously I'm beginning to wonder if this post is even real!

 

Lisa

[Unreasonable]

Is your real name "Baby"? Is any of her exes real names "Honey?" If not I think you are being paranoid.