I hate my friends

[Matty2]

I am only in high school, so I imagine things will change. I never truly found people I can truly relate to, so I started hanging out with "the dregs of society," because they are very accepting of all people. Though they aren't all bad, and I really like being around them sometimes, I realize that I disliked them. All they do is either complain or do drugs/drink. I would like to leave them, but they are now all I have.

 

I would continue to hang out with them, but they are such downers that I can no longer justify doing it. To have fun, we compete to be the center of attention, and say loud and stupid things. Their behavior is starting to bleed off onto me. This shows now when I am trying to get friendly with a new group of people. Always, I blow it by talking too much, too loudly, and too stupidly.

 

My social skills have taken a decline, and so has my confidence. I used to be the happiest person, smiling and laughing all the time, with determination to make my dreams a reality at any cost. Now I can only find solace in sitting in my darkened room, and my dreams seem distant and impossible.

 

I have lost the confidence to even talk to people outside of the group. I need out. I need real social interaction, not this phony stuff. What do I do?

[J Miracle]

Its good you've recognized this problem. Think about your dreams, and work toward that. You dont need to tell your losers you dont like them, just find better ways to occupy your time rather than hang out with them. Become busy. Find people with common interests. Join a program. Sports? Art? Mechanics? Music? Whatever you want.

[Matty2]

THnaks Jay. You are right. I will find work for my idle hands

[WithLove]

Try Meet Up. You list your interests and it connects you to other people that are in groups of like-minded people. Most of them are free.