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This is extremely weird and I need advising, I know I hurt her and upset her by not giving her love and attention and pushed her away. In my last thread I explained it all and what I'd done and how we loved each other dearly. Anyway long story short we met up today after the week of no contact and she tells me that it's over and we should move on which I said I accepted and then boom she said she didn't love me. This is a girl that EVEN up till the day before she left was telling me she loved me, she cared for me deeply and never showed any signs what so ever she wasn't in love with me. 3 days before she was sending me very intimate photos that I know for a fact you wouldn't send if you didn't love someone. Then I meet her and she was like a stranger, cold and guarded she SHUT down anything I had to say and said she didn't love me, was like a completely different girl, I want to know if this is a reaction of someone guarded and hurt after a 2 and a half year relationship to do this. I know for a fact she loves me, I could even sort of tell when she hugged my bye for the last time and stroked my back and sniffed my chest. I just don't know why she'd tell me she didn't love me and act as a stranger. I left it saying that if she ever felt a feeling come back for me that I'd be willing to work it out and make things right because I always will love her, honest I just want to know what's going on in her head because I shouldn't have neglected her but I know she loves me and want to know the meaning of how she's acting. Thanks guys

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This is extremely weird and I need advising, I know I hurt her and upset her by not giving her love and attention and pushed her away. In my last thread I explained it all and what I'd done and how we loved each other dearly. Anyway long story short we met up today after the week of no contact and she tells me that it's over and we should move on which I said I accepted and then boom she said she didn't love me. This is a girl that EVEN up till the day before she left was telling me she loved me, she cared for me deeply and never showed any signs what so ever she wasn't in love with me. 3 days before she was sending me very intimate photos that I know for a fact you wouldn't send if you didn't love someone. Then I meet her and she was like a stranger, cold and guarded she SHUT down anything I had to say and said she didn't love me, was like a completely different girl, I want to know if this is a reaction of someone guarded and hurt after a 2 and a half year relationship to do this. I know for a fact she loves me, I could even sort of tell when she hugged my bye for the last time and stroked my back and sniffed my chest. I just don't know why she'd tell me she didn't love me and act as a stranger. I left it saying that if she ever felt a feeling come back for me that I'd be willing to work it out and make things right because I always will love her, honest I just want to know what's going on in her head because I shouldn't have neglected her but I know she loves me and want to know the meaning of how she's acting. Thanks guys

 

The same thing happens to me but I was the one not giving him enough attention/love and he left me. Like you, the days before he still told me he loved me and then when we saw each other after two weeks of the breakup and he was cold and he told me he didn't love me anymore..

 

I think the best is really to not contact her (and yes it's hard!!). Don't let her know your sad. Try to do things for you and find new hobbies.

 

There's no explanation that will make you feel better. Don't try to force her to tell you the why, it'll just make you feel worse.

 

One things that help me is to go out with friends, meet new people..

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I know she's got no one else, it was so weird though like she was a complete stranger, I told her that I'd always be willing to work things out and I hope with no contact and start to work on myself I will get the chance to make things right. The way she spoke and the wall she put up shows me the strong feelings she still has and I know she will be thinking of me, the whole conversation just didn't seem that genuine seen as she had this wall up. I'd be very surprised if you could just stop loving someone after a week who you had been with for 2.5 years and it was her first love pretty much so I know there's more to it then meets the eye.

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Yeh it's out of your control! Leave it to fate 😊

 

I've got a similar thing with my ex. People process things differently. My ex has apparently jumped straight back into something with some new guy.

 

She put up a post on FB of how she's met the love of her life etc

 

Just says to me she's hurt. I know if I met someone amazing out of respect for her I wouldn't post something like that unless I was pissed off.

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& even if I was pissed if I still wouldn't post it 😂
it's awful isn't it mate, she will be looking for a reaction out of you, best just to leave it and not rise to it.

 

Life always sorts itself out, last night mine was so out of character and saying she was gonna delete my number and take me off all social media which I know she won't and hasn't yet. I know for a fact you can't have your first love (I was hers) and not see each other in the future and have an emotional conversation, they can't keep up the wall forever mate. Just got to let life do its thing!

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