phoenixx Posted May 2, 2017 Share Posted May 2, 2017 I never really post these kind of things however my ex, (boyfriend at the time) broke up with me, his reasons were that his like and excitement of having me created an illusion in his head which made him think he loved me, I asked him how he felt towards me and he said 'I like you...', In the slightest way his reasons made sense however puzzling pieces together makes it seem like he was lying to me and that there was something deeper. We all know about a relationship where they both seem perfect together however someone from the past comes back and one cannot help their feelings towards them because of the memories. He had told me that there was a girl that he used to talk to, however the communication slowly stopped between them two, he then moved on and a few years later found me, I do believe that we got into the relationship quite quickly but in my belief I would use that time to allow myself to get to know him so much more, even though he did ask me to be his girlfriend, I would have much appreciated that we started as a best friend kind and then progression. Going back to the subject of the girl, roughly 2 months ago, his cousin had planned to have a 15th birthday party (quinceanera) you know the big Latin American birthday parties, and he had been asked to be one of the dancers where there is a big group and they all dance. That was the time that he mentioned the other girl because she was also going to dance. The girl was his cousins best friend, they were basically like sisters. I was a bit ishy about him bringing her up because I hated when he talked about other girls unless they were close friends or just family. He told me their story, I kind of just brushed it off because I knew that we both wouldn't let someone else get in the way of us but I'm slowly believing that he had lied to me about why he broke up with me. I do believe that he may have fallen for her again and had to end with me because then that would be wrong of him to continue behind my back. We were together for 1 year and four months. I cannot remember the exact amount of time but a few months into the relationship, he mentioned that he had to talk to me about something, he mentioned being in a call with his best-friend and another old friend and 'memories popped up', I had no clue to what he was talking about at the time and didn't really take it in because he then later said, 'even though that did happen, I'm not going to leave you' almost like he had changed his mind on the spot. I had only just been told by a friend that that the reason he wanted to break up with me before was because the girl he had been talking to before had entered his life again? He had told this to my friend before talking to me about it. Two days after he broke up with me, I asked if I could talk to him, (this was over text), I asked if he could be 100% honest with me and asked him what really got in between us. He gave the same reasons and also added on, 'I know myself better now and because of that, its best for us to not be in an intimate relationship', He also said 'Everything crumbled down when I realised that I was lying to myself and you'. He said we could never be. I am not stuck and confused to what actually happened, I've been told that he wasn't 100% honest and there's something he isn't telling me. He told each other we would be friends however over the past few days I have been finding things out which make me question everything that we had ever done or talked about. In my mind, depending on the situation I would go back to him even if it happens to be in a couple of years however it wont be a 'straight away' thing. I hope you guys can help me, sorry for the long explanation, there is so much more to say however I had to keep it short. tldr; would it be bad if I accepted him back? (Even though I'm currently just concentrating on myself), how can I find out the whole truth? Link to comment
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