Trust or not to trust?

[everlast]

Hi,

First time poster and im looking for some advice.

Please no hate, im simply confused about what to do.

 

I have been dating my partner for about 7 months now. Everything seemed fine until he started accusing me and going though my phone constantly looking for "evidence" that i had done something wrong by him. He hacked my google account and my emails. After proving i had nothing to hide i thought i would go and help myself to his google account and emails. Well i found loads and loads of chat sites that have been downloaded and used over and over again. I confronted him about this and he denies everything telling me that other people had been using his account ie ex-girlfriends and brothers etc etc. he even contacted google about it. Im certain i saw his specific moblie use these apps and also his IP address was correct for his location. Upon further investigation i managed to work out one of his chat accounts on a app called Kik. I logged in and sure enough a girl contacted me. I pretended to be him and she screen shoted a small convo they had while we had been dating (about 3 months into our relationship). She confirm their relationship was extensive and they used to chat all the time and exchange nudes etc etc. She lives in India. Again i confronted him and his excuse was that was his old phone that he sold to a friend and he didnt wipe it so this friend must be using it. Now im not dumb. but for one reason or another he won my love again.

 

fast forward 4 months now and he started again with looking though my phone. again he came up with nothing. He even contact my provider and got a itemised record of my phone and went though all my numbers ! so again i thought i would do the same. Turns out though the first 3 months of our relationship he had been texting (alot and all hours of the night including 1 am in the morning) 3 other girls. He admitted to deleting the texts and thought it would just cause trouble between us. He tells me they are all just good friends and slowly started not texting them. Firstly, why wouldn't he keep the messages if they are just friends to prove that to me? I will never know what was said as i dont know these girls and as if they would tell me.

 

I broke it off with him i had enough of the lies, accusations and deceit. He has vowed to win me back and tells me im his everything etc etc. he starting to get close to me again and we have been talking and he has been showering me in gifts. My problem is do i trust him ?? I love him but im so hurt and distressed about it. I cant stop checking his phone accounts and emails now. Ive never had trust issues before and now i feel like he has ruined that for me.

 

What should i do ? Break it off completely or give him a chance ?

[Wiseman2]

At 7 mos, cut your losses. This is more like policing than dating. So many red flag of a control freak. End it, go no contact change all your passwords and block and delete him asap.

 

Google red flags for abusive relationships. Run. started accusing me and going though my phone constantly looking for "evidence" that i had done something wrong by him. He hacked my google account and my emails. fast forward 4 months now and he started again with looking though my phone. again he came up with nothing. He even contact my provider and got a itemised record of my phone and went though all my numbers !

[Rezie]

Run! Don't look back!