What should I do?

[Size69]

I need help!

 

Ok, so prom is coming up and I'm taking my girlfriend to prom. She is a junior so this is my prom.

However, my friends don't like my girlfriend. They've gotten into fights with her and they also know of how me and my girlfriend fight a lot. I asked my friends if they wanted to make up with my girlfriend, but they collectively said no. They already decided that they want nothing to do with her.

 

So because my friends don't like my girlfriend, I cannot take pictures with my friends before prom, I cannot take the party bus to prom with my friends, and I can't really have much fun at prom unless I'm with my friends.

 

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 11 and a half months, but we've fought a lot. We've fought hundreds of times and broke up dozens of times. I'm already at that point where I don't care if the relationship goes on anymore, but I don't have it in my heart to break hers.

 

My friends suggested that I don't go to prom with her and that I should go with someone else because she isn't worth the sacrifices anymore. ( I agree with them)...

 

So what should I do? Should I break up with my girlfriend and go to prom with someone else and have a lot of fun with my friends OR should I not break my girlfriend's heart and go to prom with her, knowing that I will not get the full experience of fun?

[Raggie]

I'm a huge believer in putting yourself first in these life 'milestones'; you have one chance and the night needs to be an experience that you look back with fondness. No regrets. As she is a junior, she'll still have a chance to go to prom with her year.

 

That said, do you have to take a date? What's wrong with going solo? It might be more of a kick in the teeth for her... and after all, the break up us about you two, right?

 

One thing I'm curious about; relationships take two, arguments take two. Surely your friends realise this? Why don't they like her?

 

I think multiple break ups sounds like a red flag. Time to call it a day and focus on the next stages of your life.

[glitterfingers]

How long until prom? If it's a month or more away, break up with her and find another date. If it's in the next few weeks, I would try to persuade your friends to let your girlfriend join on the condition that she keeps her mouth shut and is nice to them, or tell your girlfriend that you're going alone/with a friend because otherwise you won't enjoy YOUR prom with YOUR friends. Then break up with her after.

 

I would try not to break up with her immediately before prom because you might be sad on prom night and that will show in your photos. Sounds silly but those memories last a lifetime

[Size69]

My friends and my girlfriend's friends all know that she starts majority of the fights. They've witnessed multiple times when we were fine an hour ago or a day ago, and then moments later, she would be mad at me. We fight two-three times a week and my patience has run out with these constant dramas.

 

And thank you for the idea of going solo. I can't find it in my heart to suddenly break up with her, but at the same time, I feel that it is necessary.

[Size69]

How long until prom? If it's a month or more away, break up with her and find another date. If it's in the next few weeks, I would try to persuade your friends to let your girlfriend join on the condition that she keeps her mouth shut and is nice to them, or tell your girlfriend that you're going alone/with a friend because otherwise you won't enjoy YOUR prom with YOUR friends. Then break up with her after.

 

I would try not to break up with her immediately before prom because you might be sad on prom night and that will show in your photos. Sounds silly but those memories last a lifetime

 

Prom is on June 3rd so it is a month away. I suggested to my friends on making up with her and I suggested to my girlfriend to make up with them, but they don't want to. And thank you, you might be right about me being sad if I break up with her before prom.

[j.man]

I mean you've made your case to dump her and enjoy your prom with your friends better than any of us could. If you're looking for permission, consider it granted.

[Wiseman2]

You don't get along. It's your prom so go and have fun. Don't ruin it because of her and fighting, etc.

My friends suggested that I don't go to prom with her and that I should go with someone else because she isn't worth the sacrifices anymore. I agree with them..